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Question: How Do You Separate Your Sex Life From Your Religious Life?  

CookiesNMischief 38M
0 posts
2/18/2013 9:09 pm
Question: How Do You Separate Your Sex Life From Your Religious Life?


For years I've been preaching the idea of sex being a very specific religion of sorts, where if by one's good graces, a gentleman/female hits just the right spot, a female/gentleman echoes sentiment with, "Oh God!"

Truly, madly, deeply are we individuals here who covet our neighbors with skin on sin, pressed into sweaty messes during weekend orgies at houses resembling the prim and proper establishments in the high end sections of town.

While churches around the country take to practicing in mass or congregations on a certain holy day, when it comes to sex, it's a 24/7 occupation, of body and mind, of willing partners or singular acts we handle all our own.

It got me thinking - there's 'church' and then there's the temples of the body. My question is, How does one keep their normal lives away from their sexual releases?

Granted, this inquisition has been a topic of many chat rooms since the advent of the internet. I've seen it in magazines, and it's been reported as though it was some viable subject worthy of political discussion. In this realm however, when spoken between normal folk, I wonder exact how the chat would go.

So, how do you play Mom and Dad on 'TV' and then go John Jacking Jill under the covers of the bed? Or has the physicality blurred the reality, and it now has become one or the same?

I am sure there will be hundreds of (or not) comments for those curiously snooping around my blog. So be it. I am not expecting to get the all-encompassing answer to the mighty question overnight. Still, I myself would like to see what the general populous of horny people think overall.

It makes for a great coffee conversation, doesn't it?

CookiesNMischief 38M

3/5/2015 7:30 pm

    Quoting SweetThing1117:
    I don't think you should separate your sex from your religion.. unless your religion is so restrictive that you feel you have no choice but to separate them.

    The way I see it.. it is a relationship, not a religion. Everyone is so worried that they will 'go to Hell' if they don't follow the Bible to the letter. So many people have interpreted the Bible so many different ways, that it is nigh impossible to suss out what it really means.
    It is no surprise that 'men of God' or preachers/pastors of conservative religious sects will tell their followers that sex is bad, dirty, or only for procreation. The viewpoint someone has on religion is mainly based on how someone was raised, or what they were exposed to early in life.

    I see people either have an all-in view of religion.. where it is the only thing they can see and everything other than their way is wrong; or they are so completely removed from having any spiritual connection with a higher power that it is a free-for-all in every aspect of their life. There is rarely a middle ground, though I have seen it in a few people.

    Humans (for the most part) do not like to make a decision. Of any kind. So when something comes along that is a routine, or is a set groove, it isn't very difficult for them to follow. Hence, following the Bible is an all-or-nothing endeavor for many.

    With all that being said.. back to my opening line in you shouldn't separate your sex from your religion.
    What I mean is that you can absolutely have both.. sex and religion.

    The way I see it, God created us as sensual, pleasurable beings. We as humans derive great pleasure from so many things.. food, adventure, sex., etc.
    Heck, female humans are the only female creatures on Earth who can orgasm. Orgasm serves no purpose in procreation.. it really is only there for pleasure; and with all the different types/intensities of orgasms, it is really quite baffling.

    I believe that we are the highest form of God's creation.. that we are the living, breathing manifestation of His grace.
    People that say that sex is dirty, or something to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about are missing the point.

    Just my two cents.
And that's the thing - open to interpretation, as subjective as the person who takes into account the readings within the Bible. Or the Koran, whatever.

Why one cannot be religiously faithful to their beliefs while enjoying the emotional values within sex that God intended is beyond me. Because, as you and many others have mentioned, we are the highest form of that reflection when it comes to the face of God. And still whatever one practices, when it comes to sex, it's all kosher to say the temple that is the human body ought to be worshiped in both a mental and physical way.

To simply say, sex just to procreate makes the notion that we are no more emotional about who we as beings than an animal who ruts with another. To devolve as both an evolved species and a functioning society simply because the religion states otherwise is a backwards thinking.

Ultimately, it's this: What happens behind closed doors can be as open as what is practiced on a Sunday. It's basically no one's business except our own. Using our imaginations and creativity in the same manner as the strongest aspects of one's faith will make for a well rounded individual and one clear in their thought processes, not weakened by the sinful nature of what others may deem to be dirty.

Enjoy thyself. It's only the natural thing to do.


SweetThing1117 55F
16 posts
3/5/2015 10:25 am

I don't think you should separate your sex from your religion.. unless your religion is so restrictive that you feel you have no choice but to separate them.

The way I see it.. it is a relationship, not a religion. Everyone is so worried that they will 'go to Hell' if they don't follow the Bible to the letter. So many people have interpreted the Bible so many different ways, that it is nigh impossible to suss out what it really means.
It is no surprise that 'men of God' or preachers/pastors of conservative religious sects will tell their followers that sex is bad, dirty, or only for procreation. The viewpoint someone has on religion is mainly based on how someone was raised, or what they were exposed to early in life.

I see people either have an all-in view of religion.. where it is the only thing they can see and everything other than their way is wrong; or they are so completely removed from having any spiritual connection with a higher power that it is a free-for-all in every aspect of their life. There is rarely a middle ground, though I have seen it in a few people.

Humans (for the most part) do not like to make a decision. Of any kind. So when something comes along that is a routine, or is a set groove, it isn't very difficult for them to follow. Hence, following the Bible is an all-or-nothing endeavor for many.

With all that being said.. back to my opening line in you shouldn't separate your sex from your religion.
What I mean is that you can absolutely have both.. sex and religion.

The way I see it, God created us as sensual, pleasurable beings. We as humans derive great pleasure from so many things.. food, adventure, sex., etc.
Heck, female humans are the only female creatures on Earth who can orgasm. Orgasm serves no purpose in procreation.. it really is only there for pleasure; and with all the different types/intensities of orgasms, it is really quite baffling.

I believe that we are the highest form of God's creation.. that we are the living, breathing manifestation of His grace.
People that say that sex is dirty, or something to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about are missing the point.

Just my two cents.


CookiesNMischief 38M

12/7/2014 10:06 pm

    Quoting  :

Taking that thought, most of that theory would apply in other social settings as well. However, since this is strictly on religious bearing on sex, people who have a good head on their shoulders ought to have the capability of having their cake and eating it too - especially if dessert is quite sweet.

But I agree with you - religious organizations see it as black and white, there is no gray area. Unfortunately, its that blind narrow minded vision being preached upon the zombie masses that upsets the status quo. And in status quo I mean that part of society thinking within reason exactly how crazy that notion and definition of their "sin" really is.


CookiesNMischief 38M

12/7/2014 9:42 pm

    Quoting  :

When it comes to organized religion, I only wished that people didn't have to impose their will of faith based ideologies on others who merely have a different thought on it. I believe for the most part, people want to do the right thing, and are good as individuals can be. I feel if one is able to distinguish from this and that, the path chosen, whether it be righteous or otherwise will be the one skin that person is comfortable to be in.


CookiesNMischief 38M

4/10/2013 11:14 am

    Quoting summer_2013:
    Interesting question! I think this will be hugely different from an individuals perspective of religion, their beliefs and their morals. For me it is easy as I am not really religious. I consider myself a christian but not practising. How I deal with things is to my best ability lead or try to be the best I can and try to be as honest and truthful as I can. Surely this is what religion asks of us. I have made mistakes in the past but at this point I would say there are certain moral grounds I would not tread knowingly e.g. involving myself with a married man and of course there is also the intentions not to knowlingly mislead someone. But then I am clear on my profile what I want which is a relationship and not a NSA, despite being on this site.
And really, that's what it all comes down to - doing what's right for you, because you are all you have, especially in a world of sexual temptations. In that regard, you are your own sensual religion


summer_2013 61F
28 posts
4/9/2013 12:08 pm

Interesting question! I think this will be hugely different from an individuals perspective of religion, their beliefs and their morals. For me it is easy as I am not really religious. I consider myself a christian but not practising. How I deal with things is to my best ability lead or try to be the best I can and try to be as honest and truthful as I can. Surely this is what religion asks of us. I have made mistakes in the past but at this point I would say there are certain moral grounds I would not tread knowingly e.g. involving myself with a married man and of course there is also the intentions not to knowlingly mislead someone. But then I am clear on my profile what I want which is a relationship and not a NSA, despite being on this site.


CookiesNMischief 38M

4/8/2013 10:06 am

    Quoting ElectricNomad:
    I don't believe in the existence of a being from another level of consciousness. Most religions are based on man's need or idea of surviving death somehow. "All religions can't be right so they must all be wrong"-Fredrich Nietzsche
Religion is cultish in origin anyways; but I can't ever fault the faith of individuals who firmly believe in their particular religion. If taken into that account, I would say sex is a religion in itself - why do you think women when in the throws of passion would ultimately scream, "Oh God!" when having an orgasmic experience


ElectricNomad 33M

4/8/2013 9:42 am

I don't believe in the existence of a being from another level of consciousness. Most religions are based on man's need or idea of surviving death somehow. "All religions can't be right so they must all be wrong"-Fredrich Nietzsche


CookiesNMischief 38M

2/19/2013 6:12 pm

    Quoting sonic_n_sideshow:
    It is a great question, but one myself I wouldn't even think to ask having so little of a religious identity in the sexual realm. I think as Dave said - it would really depend on denomination (if any) and degree, no?
As long as faith is strength based, you can keep playing while praying the good word when it comes to kneeling and, 'kneeling'...the balance keeps us at odds, but not so much we forget where we come from when it comes to both a religious and sexual experience. In that regard, they go hand in hand.

Thanks for stopping in; please cum again!


CookiesNMischief 38M

2/19/2013 6:10 pm

    Quoting rm_4jasmine2:
    A very good question!
    My personal relationship with God has suffered since I have been on this site. According to my Bible, we have to live a clean and righteous life, and having numerous sex partners, and even watching porn is a sin.
    I do not believe God forgives sins if you just go out and do them over and over. One must repent and change your ways.
    Since I am not doing that, I believe I am not living the principals of the Bible and thus cannot claim I can do both.
    I believe either one or the other.
    My 2 cents.
I am sure in your heart and mind you are doing what's best, for you and for others as well. Just because one enjoys the thrills of sex doesn't mean they can't spread the good word either. There's a certain balance when it comes to pleasure and faith, and those who are free to think clearly are stronger for it.

Just keep doing what you're doing - my two cents And thanks for stopping in!


CookiesNMischief 38M

2/19/2013 6:08 pm

    Quoting daveroswell:
    Good question, don't have a good answer. I think a lot has to do with the religious denomination. Some of the more progressive religious folks feel they are intertwined, at least with married folks. Outside of that, it gets a little murky.

    Depending on who one believes is the creator, I find it hard to believe we have the ability to do the things we do (and enjoy it) and that it is somehow bad to do so. So, my thoughts are that we should enjoy it. Even if our religion doesn't specifically say we should, I think a lot of religious stuff is too word of mouth, anyway.
Yes, when it comes to sex Dave, orators like to speak in tongues, thus spreading the good word makes for some finger licking fun for those involved.

Personally though, I believe there are individuals who have balance both wants and desires on an equal basis with their beliefs because they are strong in faith and when it comes to the flesh. Because of that, they simply have no care in the world; in one's own mind, it is righteous either way.


sonic_n_sideshow 51M/53F
15101 posts
2/19/2013 8:42 am

It is a great question, but one myself I wouldn't even think to ask having so little of a religious identity in the sexual realm. I think as Dave said - it would really depend on denomination (if any) and degree, no?

I am a celebration of willful chaos and a hugger.


rm_4jasmine2 53F
10698 posts
2/19/2013 12:00 am

A very good question!
My personal relationship with God has suffered since I have been on this site. According to my Bible, we have to live a clean and righteous life, and having numerous sex partners, and even watching porn is a sin.
I do not believe God forgives sins if you just go out and do them over and over. One must repent and change your ways.
Since I am not doing that, I believe I am not living the principals of the Bible and thus cannot claim I can do both.
I believe either one or the other.
My 2 cents.

Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning
Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]


daveroswell 55M
4567 posts
2/18/2013 11:17 pm

Good question, don't have a good answer. I think a lot has to do with the religious denomination. Some of the more progressive religious folks feel they are intertwined, at least with married folks. Outside of that, it gets a little murky.

Depending on who one believes is the creator, I find it hard to believe we have the ability to do the things we do (and enjoy it) and that it is somehow bad to do so. So, my thoughts are that we should enjoy it. Even if our religion doesn't specifically say we should, I think a lot of religious stuff is too word of mouth, anyway.


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