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Life Changes
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Life Changes Well, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that there has been a HUGE change in my life recently, but just in case you haven’t been paying attention, I will fill you in on how my life has changed recently. As you have surely seen (unless you are blind…but then again you wouldn’t be reading this if you were…lol) the profile name has changed and there is a new woman with me on this profile. It is plain to see that I am no long with Nancy and I am now with a woman, named Janie. Okay, I don't know how much you all know about the nature of my relationship with Nancy, so I will fill in the holes, wherever they may be. First of all, when Nancy and I first met back in 2012, we were both married and just play partners. Well, as time went on our relationship progressed into something more serious and kept progressing. I got divorced last year after being separated since October 2013 and I was hoping that Nancy would do the same so that we could be together as a traditional, committed couple, but that didn't happen. So, I decided that it was time for me to live my life for me and I started doing more things on my own and doing things for me, but continued to see Nancy hoping that she would come around and decide to be with me. So there is that and now the next piece of the puzzle. I have known Janie as a friend for about 3 years. However, apparently, Janie has had a crush on me for quite some time, which is something that Nancy actually told me she saw as well, but I just couldn't see it. Janie never said anything to me about it out of respect for my relationship with Nancy, which she thought was a conventional, committed (at least committed by lifestyle standards). Well, it just so happens that I also felt an attraction to her, but never said anything about it out of respect for my relationship with Nancy as well. Over the course of the past couple years as Janie has been healing after the loss of Larry, I tried to be a good friend to her and support her. Apparently, she began to question how I could understand and sympathize with some of the comments she had made, particularly on Facebook. So she began to ask questions about how I could understand some of the things she had said and how I could feel the same way she did in some ways. Now, Nancy and I never really broadcast the true nature of our relationship, but we have always been upfront and honest when asked. So I did the same thing Janie that I had done with numerous people and told her just what the true nature of our relationship was. Once Janie realized that Nancy and I were not actually in a committed relationship, she confessed her true feelings for me. Once she opened the door for me, I did the same thing and told her how I felt about her and the feelings that I had for her. After that everything has sped on down the road very fast, but it all has felt so natural to us both. We (Janie and  both knew that she was going to be at the Naughty Gras Idaho party last month and neither one of us thought it was fair to her to find out about our feelings for each other by witnessing it first-hand knowing that we were going to have a hard time hiding it from each other. So I thought the right thing to do was to tell Nancy what was going on so there wouldn't be any issues or unnecessary drama at the party that night. She decided that she could not be there for the party because she didn’t want to see the two of us together, which was understandable, and she also wanted to give us the chance to explore our feelings for each other to see if there was really something there. A couple nights after the party, I sat down with Nancy and told her that I was going to pursue a serious relationship with Janie, but that I had no intention of wanting her to no longer be a part of my life because I still love her and cherish her. After I did that and we both told our , we announced it on Facebook, making it official (because nothing is official until it is posted on Facebook) and are out in the open with our relationship and moving forward very happily.I know that this whole situation is hurting Nancy and I do feel bad for that, but also know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the right thing for me to be happy. One thing that I do ask of anyone that knows me and Nancy is for them to reach out to her and let her know that she has support, that people do care for her, and would still love to see her at group events and parties because she needs to know that she is loved and wanted. One other good thing that has come out of all of this is that Nancy and her husband are working on rebuilding and repairing their relationship and their marriage. Through all of this, Nancy has learned that her husband would actually like to participate in the lifestyle with her, or at least her to events so she can continue to participate in the lifestyle, which I think is GREAT. So there you have it. Now you know why there is a new woman standing next to me in my profile picture here and how it all happened. Dennis (Idahonuke) To read about myongoing adventures and journey into the lifestyle: [blog Idahonuke] |
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Kiss4HerNuke replies on 3/16/2016 9:40 pm: Thanks, Chris. I pride myself on always trying to tell the whole story, even if it is not flattering towards me. Thank you for reaching out to Nancy. She needs to hear from as many of our friends as she can so she knows that she is wanted and loved. -------------------------- I would recommend posting this to the other area groups, so they can reach out to Nancy, too.
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Dennis, Thank you for sharing sometimes the best choice is not always easy. I look forward to meeting Janie in the coming days. How is all the traveling going to work and which oil company should I invest In ? Randy
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Dennis, it takes a very courageous man to tell the story like it is. I applaud you for your honesty. I reached out to Nancy when I saw your profile update, and she has my support and prayers.
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