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The 'bro code'
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The 'bro code' Yeah I know, that sounds a little silly but...it's kind of a serious thing....friends have been lost (hopefully temporarily) because of a lack of attention to or consideration for the 'bro code'. I am just venting here. I am not being told what to do or what to think by anyone...anyone who knows me even slightly, knows that's like mixing oil and water...ain't gonna happen but...they use it all the time if they don't like what I am saying. Oh well. I prefer to be a fact based person. I don't go by what just one person tells me. I ask questions to anyone who might have information that will shed light on a given subject. The 'bro code'....is respecting a good friend on the site, just as you would in real life. Case in point: During the World Series...end of October, 2018, a dozen or more chatters on the site see a friend of theirs...I will call her Alice but that's not her name or handle...Alice states in several public chat rooms how very much in love she is with her guy on the site..I will call him Bob.....they are exclusive and she says Bob is 'the one', she is totally dedicated to him, etc. Dec 7, 2018, a little over a month later.....I...and at least a dozen others....see Bob on the site with Alice in a private group chat room party setting. It's a brief visit by Alice but they are together. Dec 31, 2018...two and a half weeks later at a NYE party in that same room...Bob and Alice are there, as well as 15 or 20 others enjoying the party. Another guy who I will call Ted is heavily flirting with Alice and she is flirting back while also chatting with Bob. Important to note here: Bob and Ted are supposedly good buddies on the site.. A close bond. I am dj'g the music for the party and Bob asks me to play a special song for a dance with Alice. His girl, as far as we knew. So I started playing the song. Alice does not start dancing to the romantic music with Bob. About 2/3 of the way through the song, Alice gets up on the bar counter with a bottle of booze and starts dancing, solo, laughing. Then Ted asks me to play a song, so I do, and Ted and Alice proceed to heavily flirt and dance....close to starting a sexy scene together as they dance....right infront of Bob ...and everyone else in the room. Bob was so shocked at this display of disrespect towards him that he left the party and even logged off the site entirely. As far as any of us knew, Bob and Alice had been an exclusive couple. She had proclaimed her love for him not even two months earlier and we'd seen them together just two and a half weeks earlier. Yes, it's a sex site and yes, people switch partners like they change their underwear. But when two ppl agree to be exclusive, it's serious. it was quite obvious to all of us, seeing this action taking place in the room, that, at some point in time, the relationship between Bob and Alice had ended. But we'd seen them together just two and a half weeks earlier. As some of us quietly posted our discontent with what Alice and Ted were doing in the room, they started to get the idea that we weren't very happy at all. The two of them became angry at us, defensive; they saw absolutely nothing wrong with what they were doing and their posts in the room reflected this. It wasn't just me who was shocked at this. A dozen of the regulars in the room were so angry at this disrespect being shown for Bob that we met in a private room to talk about it. We all understood that changes in 'relationships' on this site happens daily, hourly even lol That is not what angered us. It was the total lack of respect that Ted and Alice had shown for Bob...someone Alice had declared only two months earlier to be her 'one and only'. Especially given the fact that Bob and Ted were supposedly good friends,. The respectful thing for them to have done was to leave the party and start their playing privately. In the private group rooms, we can choose to instantly ban people from the room who violate the rules of the room. After much discussion and soul searching, we all decided that this disrespect for a good friend and fellow room owner by someone who was supposed to be a friend and by a girl who had been exclusive with him warranted banning from the room. We could not sit by and do nothing; that would send the message that we felt what they did was just fine. What they did was just about the worst thing two people can do to someone else on this site. And so we banned them. The next day, Alice created a thread in Ted's room, stating she and Bob had not been together 'for months' and she stated there was proof on her profile of that....she stated that anyone could check it out...she stated she changed her 'relationship status' on her profile months ago when she ended that relationship with Bob. I went to her profile and studied it very carefully. I could not find any such notification of a change. She has chosen to hide her activity, which is her right to do. I only wanted the facts because if, indeed, she had officially ended the relationship 'months ago', it might change things. I had my doubts that she had ended it 'months ago' because just two months ago, she had openly declared her complete dedication to Bob. And we'd seen them together on Dec. 7. I asked Ted to point me to where in her profile this proof was that she stated was available for everyone to see. Maybe I just wasn't seeing it. He did not know where it was. After several texts back and forth, it became clear that Ted did not know if such proof existed and, more importantly, he didn't care. Despite the fact that she couldn't have ended it 'months ago' as she stated, he just didn't care and refused to pursue it. As far as he is concerned, he and Alice did nothing wrong. So the 'bro code' got trashed. And so did many friendships. It might just be a sex site but we were all friends...and friends don't do this to friends. Even on a sex site. Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles |
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