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The Let's Meet Frenzy  

AsianJ11 49F
0 posts
12/12/2018 11:39 pm
The Let's Meet Frenzy


It blows my mind that most on here want to meet before even knowing your name. I'm new to this site....and I'm having a great time just reading my messages and thinking to myself...."No....no way....do they really mean that?"
I get messages like: "Hey baby ..wanna meet up and have some fun?"
"I'm in your area tomorrow...would love to meet up for some fun!"
"Wanna get together and play?"
First of all....how about a hello first....or introduce yourself...ask me my name. I may not give you my real name...but come on...attempt to have some decency!
Secondly....how do you know you will like what you see....I mean...my face isn't posted. What if I have crazy eyes....or a unibrow...or a giant growth on my forehead. I know looks aren't everything....and you can totally like my personality...but you don't even know my name.
Do you just spend your days meeting people on here in hopes that you get laid....without knowing their name or what they look like. I mean...I could be a man....or have a penis...better yet....a micropeen. If that's your thing...I'm not knocking it...but don't you want to know first?
How many times does one do this...before you decide...hey...I might want to find out a little about this person to avoid a complete disaster!
If you do this often....are you successful??? Lol....I'm so curious!

AsianJ11 49F

12/12/2018 11:40 pm

Someone enlighten me...please!


Frankie_Valley 57M
33 posts
12/13/2018 12:23 am

Coming from the male perspective…

I would not ever expect a woman to meet me, for a sexual encounter, before at least one "casual public place" meet and greet—and if she would, I'd question whether I'd really want to meet her. Meeting from just a chat? Yeah, no to that, too.

At the same time, it's not been all that easy to find a woman/women here who will put in the time and effort online, to move things to the next level. Of course, there are logistics involved, schedules—personal lives that also get in the way.

So, although I'd prefer going the sensible—and safe—route, I can imagine it's much easier to go about these things spontaneously. Hence, the "Hey, bb... you wanna meet tonight?" approach.

I think if I were gat and looking for men, I'd have a lot more success here. I get propositioned by men here a lot more than women.


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 10:52 am:
Hahaha...thank you...

Lkn4funwith2 58M
1216 posts
12/13/2018 12:26 am

Seems to me that you should create an account at FriendFinder so men will actually ask your name, and take it from there. This site IS a sex site, so you already know what type of messages you will continue to receive.


Frankie_Valley 57M
33 posts
12/13/2018 12:28 am

Just to clarify…

"Meeting from just a chat? Yeah, "no" to that, too."

I believe it IS possible for an encounter to work out fine from just online chatting. But that would involve quite a bit of chatting and getting to know each other. I'm kind'a-sort'a in that situation now.


pytimesx 64M
988 posts
12/13/2018 12:46 am

its so comical its almost funny and nonetheless entertaining 'in short' before it truly gets annoying.

All good questions though. Unfortunately there's no reasonable answer for the lack of etiquette and decorum. Not even ignorance of the first five words in your tagline - "well educated" being key words here. Especially since the first 120 characters are readable by all comers... or maybe cummers fit better

For men, its the unrelenting flirts and invites by women between the age of 30-35. It doesn't take paying members long to figure it out so they rarely phony up fees for a second hitch.

It reminds me of a ringtone company that had a strategic problem of keeping paying members (in a 12 year old demographic). They didn't like the factual conclusion that 12 year old's were not paying for the service - it was their parents. And once parents figured out some third party phone hack was applying charges, the funds got cutoff.

An interesting analysis would be to see if these emails and messages are generated by paying members (non-standard) who do phony up the fees.


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 10:47 am:
Thank you for your input. Have a great day!

jajo696 113F
4287 posts
12/13/2018 1:28 am

First of all.....most here have bought into the " sex site " thing. Some males think that since they met you here that's ALL that you are about...first n foremost.

People don't realize that we are human beings before sexual beings. Those other mainstream sites are sex sites too....just with a little wrapping paper n bow. Here ...that layer is already removed.

Of course it takes time and discernment to come across a good match here. I have often returned emails that said...." No thanks, where are your manners "...or...." Would you say that to me if we met in the produce aisle of the grocery store ?"

Lol.

Those that have drank the sex site Kool aid....have lost their manners....objectify you...and won't take the time to get to know you may take a seat at the back of the line.

Welcome to the world of A..F...F. I always say , here is a microcosm of life at large, some very nice people and some not so very nice ones. Take your time and hold out for the ones that meet your needs. They can be found.

Just my dos centavos~~


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 10:50 am:
Thank you for your input...I am starting to like blog land much better then just plain IM
Much nicer people!

banjo6660 57M
615 posts
12/13/2018 1:37 am

Personally I like to get to know someone on here but getting them to reply to a message is hard enough


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
12/13/2018 1:52 am

I see it often in the chat room. Some guy saying, "I'm coming to local town/city name next week, who wants to show me around?". Yeah, like that is going to work.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


dogslife2live01 71M

12/13/2018 3:55 am

I am a well educated woman that rules her professional

i took this off your profile. now being a person the "believes" people are mostly honest. i would have to ask you as a "well educated" person, have you not learned to understand the situation you walk into? now to "rule" the world you battle in... do you believe that the better you understand the nature of the battle.
therefor i ask if you have studied Horny.net you would have seen that in this environment the, buzz toy girls, the gimmie tip girls have overshadowed those that just wanna have fun.
i find the women here allow men to degrade them for a few coins...and as we all know to well the workings of "mob rule" we can explain the letters for sexual relive that are sent to women here
pity! that these so called sex, or adult sites have left behind the spirit of adult fun... and for many men have become just a place to cum.
so you see miss asian here and many places like this you have lost your head, your spirit, your wit, and become just tits and a place to cum!. and it does not matter if you have a unibrow,black teeth,one eye, or any other deformity. for in their mind once they cum, they will go
the real question would be
does the reality of what adult sites have become not make you cry

ps great body! what do your eyes look like?

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 3:10 pm:
My eyes are just brown...lol

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/13/2018 3:57 am

Try to understand this... when a guy tells you , ""Hey baby ..wanna meet up and have some fun?"
"I'm in your area tomorrow...would love to meet up for some fun!"
"Wanna get together and play?" ".... Or something of that nature.... the safety protocol is always to meet first in public.. [don't tell them your real name] and only 10 seconds to 10 minutes is enough to know for sure if anything sexy could go down.

So this isn't "Taking any time out of peoples lives"... it's 1 minute to 10 minutes... for a meeting. That's all.


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 12:56 pm:
I appreciate your point of view. It sure made me look at things a bit differently. Because I am new to the dating world and this site...or any site in general...I knew it was a sex site...my pics are there to show off some sexiness...but I just expected at least a bit of an introduction. It may make me niave....but hardly stupid. Thank you for taking the time to break it down for me regardless of our different opinions.

AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 12:59 pm:
And by the way...I think I deleted your previous comment by mistake...I was deleting my response to it since I saw a spelling mistake....and deleted your comment by mistake.

gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
12/13/2018 7:25 am

I'd like to know a bit before I meet a woman here, and I'm certain she wants the same if not more, but an actual meet is the only way to tell if there is actual chemistry, connection, and attraction.

Thoughts from the Garden...


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 2:54 pm:
I totally agree...only way to actually tell is to meet...I was just thinking one would want to know a little about you before saying...hey let's meet up for fun ..but then again...I'm the niave one.

Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
12/14/2018 11:59 am

For the most part a severe lack of social skills and imagination are obviously
involved here. That said it does seem like some folks just don't want to put any effort whatsoever into any part of wooing someone, just go straight to wham bam thank you Mam.

Bit sad really to say the least.


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 2:55 pm:
I agree...what makes your "hey baby let's meet" so much more special then the 100 others? Oh....I'm on a sex site...so maybe I should just meet all and fuck all..

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/15/2018 2:25 pm


AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 12:56 pm:
....I knew it was a sex site...my pics are there to show off some sexiness...but I just expected at least a bit of an introduction. .
....Yours and his profile are the "Introductions"... you baited with pictures showing off your sexiness, and men [maybe some women] will respond to that. They only need to know you by AsianJ11.... Go meet them in person before giving out your actual name. You may not want to give them your name, after meeting them for a few minutes.

AsianJ11 replies on 12/14/2018 12:59 pm:
And by the way...I think I deleted your previous comment by mistake...I was deleting my response to it since I saw a spelling mistake....and deleted your comment by mistake.
....Okay... here it is:

It blows my mind that most on here want to meet before even knowing your name. ...They know the name you want them to know you by.... you show them your tits...why is your mind blown? Do you see a pie in a bakery, and want to know the name of the baker? No. You have the name of the bakery, and see a pie you want to eat.

I get messages like: "Hey baby ..wanna meet up and have some fun?"... That's normal.

"I'm in your area tomorrow...would love to meet up for some fun!" "Wanna get together and play?" ..... What's the matter with you? You took the time to join a sex site, and plaster pictures of your tits on your profile.... what did you think was going to happen?

First of all....how about a hello first....or introduce yourself...ask me my name..... Oh come on!! That's the job of the profile. online..Don't give your real name on these social sites.
How many guys on the internet do you tell your real name? .... Shit!! You go by Asianj11 until such time you're comfortable with some horny gentleman bonehead knowing your name. Think about that.

Some guys will do that... and they are usually the shy ones or gay ones....or the charming ones trying to play gentleman.....they'll pretend they're on eharmony, and don't have their dick in their other hand.

I may not give you my real name...but come on...attempt to have some decency! .... Maybe you don't belong on these types of sites..... Just get out of a marriage?

Secondly....how do you know you will like what you see....I mean...my face isn't posted. .... He isn't interested in your face ... you show your tits, your tits are what you are advertising. Your tits are the bait you're using.

What if I have crazy eyes....or a unibrow...or a giant growth on my forehead. ... Well he'll either walk out of the meeting , if you meet in person.... or pull a burlap bag out of his pocket.

I know looks aren't everything..... No... "Looks" pretty much are most of it, in person, for men to be attracted to a woman.

..and you can totally like my personality..... "Personality" of a woman, is a secondary consideration. Usually not given any attention until after sex.

..but you don't even know my name. ... He doesn't need to know your actual name.... that's why you go by "Asianj11". It's a privacy measure.

Do you just spend your days meeting people on here in hopes that you get laid....without knowing their name or what they look like. .... Are you peeved because they didn't do a Prince Valiant dance for you? This is a sex site. You're showing your tits... you're fishing for attention.

I mean...I could be a man....or have a penis...better yet....a micropeen..... That's totally true... but again, you're using tits for bait.... if you're stupid enough to go meet a man who is interested in meeting an actual woman, and you show up being a T-queer or something. you're liable to get hurt. Not a good idea to fool people into thinking you're woman when you're a guy pretending to be a woman.

If that's your thing...I'm not knocking it...but don't you want to know first? .... Your profile says "F"... that doesn't mean "Fuck", that means, "Female". T-queers use "T", if they're smart. Then the guy knows what kind of profile he's looking at.

How many times does one do this...before you decide...hey...I might want to find out a little about this person to avoid a complete disaster! .....If you , the woman, use a "F" and bait with your tits, then you should be a woman.... and the complete disaster might only be your face or no sexual attraction upon meeting in person. If you're not a woman, then for your own good, when he says he wants to meet you or says he wants to have sex with you.... for your own good.... you should tell him you're not a woman.

If you do this often....are you successful??? .... Yes... get right to the point.. You and the men are on a well known sex site , well known since 1996 when you were only 22... maybe your mom or dad was/is on here....anyway....so, yes, successful enough... women respond with interest when they're up for it.


AsianJ11 replies on 12/15/2018 3:29 pm:
Thank you yet again...for posting that. It helped remind me i don't belong on sites like this.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/15/2018 3:47 pm


AsianJ11 replies on 12/15/2018 3:29 pm:
Thank you yet again...for posting that. It helped remind me i don't belong on sites like this.


You're welcome. You're not alone, many women on here, shouldn't be on here.

This concept of "Online dating", was strongest in the late 1990's. Since then, "Online dating" as gone down hill...has become weak , meaning; you'd be safer going outside to night clubs..or wherever.

Go lookup the stats for crime on online dating sites.


PassionCurator 55M
1 post
12/17/2018 9:39 am

Lots of good comments on here, but let me simplify it even further.

Applying logic to an action/decision that was made based primarily upon emotion (i.e., horny and need sex) doesn't work well.


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