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Married and having an affair  

Letsmeetandfindo 65M
0 posts
1/16/2019 8:01 pm
Married and having an affair

In your opinion, if you are married is it safer to be seeing another married person or someone that is single (unattached)? Please comment as to why you voted one way or the other .
Married
Single


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 8:04 pm

My thinking is that it might be safer to see another married person due to each party having something at stake.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
1/16/2019 8:18 pm

absolutely....you both are in the same position with much to lose and much to risk.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/16/2019 8:22 pm

You're right, from the married persons perspective, having an affair with another married person is less risky than having the affair with a single person.

But.... from the single persons perspective, having an affair with the married individual is also less risky, than having the affair with another single person.


jDn3628 34M

1/16/2019 8:28 pm

Wish I knew the answer to this.


Txmedic79423 51M
20 posts
1/16/2019 8:34 pm

Good points


DaytimeFWB66 45M  
13 posts
1/16/2019 8:42 pm

I agree. Always have an affair with married person.


IVFalternative 52M
630 posts
1/16/2019 8:44 pm

Depends on the danger you are trying to avoid.

If you're trying to avoid your wife finding out, a married woman is best.

If you're trying to avoid being shot by a jealous husband then single women would be best.

If you're trying to avoid a committed relationship developing, a married woman with a rich husband is best.

Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers


funsnellvillecpl 66M/54F  
3901 posts
1/16/2019 8:53 pm

I chose married because less chance of catching something


terex6957 66M
144 posts
1/16/2019 8:53 pm

Single or married doesn't seem to matter it just depends on who they feel can keep a secret and not spread gossip


jim617772 73M

1/16/2019 9:04 pm

Married less likely to talk to other people


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:38 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    absolutely....you both are in the same position with much to lose and much to risk.
My type of thinking on the risk factor.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:40 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    You're right, from the married persons perspective, having an affair with another married person is less risky than having the affair with a single person.

    But.... from the single persons perspective, having an affair with the married individual is also less risky, than having the affair with another single person.
Makes sense. Lots of variables to consider.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:42 pm

    Quoting jDn3628:
    Wish I knew the answer to this.
We do never know. To borrow a quote from an Indiana Jones movie “ it’s a leap of faith”.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:45 pm

    Quoting terex6957:
    Single or married doesn't seem to matter it just depends on who they feel can keep a secret and not spread gossip
Valid point. Your partner in crime needs to be on the same page as you .


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:47 pm

    Quoting funsnellvillecpl:
    I chose married because less chance of catching something
This should be true. But you never know the character behind the character you are seeing. At least until you get to know them.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/16/2019 9:49 pm

    Quoting IVFalternative:
    Depends on the danger you are trying to avoid.

    If you're trying to avoid your wife finding out, a married woman is best.

    If you're trying to avoid being shot by a jealous husband then single women would be best.

    If you're trying to avoid a committed relationship developing, a married woman with a rich husband is best.
Seems like logical thought.


Hornywithtaste 48M
80 posts
1/17/2019 12:36 am

I didn't vote because I think the risk is 50/50. Not all single women are looking for love or marriage. If they're career professionals discretion is important to them too.

With a married woman, not feeling satisfied with what she has now, is as likely to develop feelings or dish with one of her girlfriends. The risk of getting caught increases if the spouses don't know, because now 2 people are making excuses, covering up, increasing potential to be caught.


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
1/17/2019 2:33 am

Getting married is a waste of time . How many remain faithful? Look at all the married people on the site .


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 3:35 am

    Quoting  :

That’s a very good point. No risk if a married person just avoids having the affair all together.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 3:41 am

    Quoting lyavu:
    Getting married is a waste of time . How many remain faithful? Look at all the married people on the site .
Your observation about the number of married people on the site is a good one. It also brings up the question: How many married people check off the married box on here? Full disclosure.

But there are some very good marriages out there. Thanks.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 3:44 am

    Quoting Hornywithtaste:
    I didn't vote because I think the risk is 50/50. Not all single women are looking for love or marriage. If they're career professionals discretion is important to them too.

    With a married woman, not feeling satisfied with what she has now, is as likely to develop feelings or dish with one of her girlfriends. The risk of getting caught increases if the spouses don't know, because now 2 people are making excuses, covering up, increasing potential to be caught.
Seems to be another good observation. So it sounds that if you see a married person, the best situation might be is if they are in an open marriage.


bitchkitty2017 71F

1/17/2019 6:29 am

    Quoting lyavu:
    Getting married is a waste of time . How many remain faithful? Look at all the married people on the site .
The first sensible comment and the only sensible comment on this blog ..people waste so much time with their lives in getting married and a lot do it knowing they will often cheat..People that cheat with another cheaters , Whats to say the cheaters aren't screwing a lot of people? There is no guarantee you wont end up with stds its no safer than singles screwing whatever comes their way...


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 7:40 am

    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    The first sensible comment and the only sensible comment on this blog ..people waste so much time with their lives in getting married and a lot do it knowing they will often cheat..People that cheat with another cheaters , Whats to say the cheaters aren't screwing a lot of people? There is no guarantee you wont end up with stds its no safer than singles screwing whatever comes their way...
It’s about the character or lack of character of the person. So agreed.


Rwefuckin 50M

1/17/2019 11:26 am

It would make the most sense to deal with someone who has just as much to lose as you do. If you decide to deal with another married person, hopefully the person is as discreet as they say they are.


allnitelong2063 60M
233 posts
1/17/2019 1:02 pm

I prefer married


descreetfun42 61M
143 posts
1/17/2019 1:21 pm

its a risk both ways.. a married person might be trying to get back or pay back with their partner.. so they might use the affair as a payback.
also the married person might decide they want you now .

in saying that.. a single person has more time on their hands..


OlderManForHorny 83M

1/17/2019 1:49 pm

Married people are more discreet


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 5:44 pm

    Quoting Rwefuckin:
    It would make the most sense to deal with someone who has just as much to lose as you do. If you decide to deal with another married person, hopefully the person is as discreet as they say they are.
So there is always a risk. At least when you are meeting for the first few times. You might exchange emails, KiK or cell phone numbers. If there are no ground rules about contact, a phone call at the wrong time could be bad.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/17/2019 7:20 pm

    Quoting  :

A very pointed opinion. A welcomed perspective which is one way to look at the overall situation of married/married, married/ single, single / single , couple/ married , couple/couple. So is it okay if s person is in an open marriage? Or if both commited partners want to introduce another to their fun?


Nic6819 57M

1/17/2019 10:15 pm

I have to say married... you are both in the same boat


Azbear1969 54M
85 posts
1/17/2019 10:34 pm

Married is probably safer in that you both have commitments to other people and less of a chance of getting attached to another.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 3:20 am

    Quoting Nic6819:
    I have to say married... you are both in the same boat
In general, I would agree .


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 3:23 am

    Quoting Azbear1969:
    Married is probably safer in that you both have commitments to other people and less of a chance of getting attached to another.
If the relationship stays longer term, even seeing a married person you can become attached.. So from my perspective you have to establish the guidelines when you start to,get involved.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 4:03 am

I accidentally deleted a post. Working on my phone and my thicker fingers hit the wrong part of the screen. Sorry about that.


dell9600 67M  
1426 posts
1/18/2019 5:45 am

Having an affair with a married person may seem that the chances of being caught are better, but when you do, and you will get caught, you hurt more people, spouses, children, etc. I had an affair. It was the worst thing I have ever done. My advice is do not have one!


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 5:50 am

    Quoting dell9600:
    Having an affair with a married person may seem that the chances of being caught are better, but when you do, and you will get caught, you hurt more people, spouses, children, etc. I had an affair. It was the worst thing I have ever done. My advice is do not have one!
An experienced based post. Thanks.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 5:59 am

    Quoting dell9600:
    Having an affair with a married person may seem that the chances of being caught are better, but when you do, and you will get caught, you hurt more people, spouses, children, etc. I had an affair. It was the worst thing I have ever done. My advice is do not have one!
We all feel that we will never be caught. But mistakes can be made.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/18/2019 10:20 am

    Quoting  :

You are correct. I did not think about all of the possibilities. Appreciate your comment and perspective.


swpabiguy60 69M

1/18/2019 3:43 pm

Married - easter o maintain discreteness.


Tomingenesee359 65M

1/19/2019 9:30 am

if you are intending to stay married, single is safer because the partner of the married person may expose the affair.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/19/2019 10:57 am

    Quoting Tomingenesee359:
    if you are intending to stay married, single is safer because the partner of the married person may expose the affair.
The bottom line is that having the affair is risky. Thanks for the comment.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/19/2019 6:41 pm

    Quoting Letsmeetandfindo:
    A very pointed opinion. A welcomed perspective which is one way to look at the overall situation of married/married, married/ single, single / single , couple/ married , couple/couple. So is it okay if s person is in an open marriage? Or if both commited partners want to introduce another to their fun?
It's always cool to cheat, and get away with cheating.

"Cheating" is usually more of a matter of personal sanity, and ALL to often [those who cheat on their marriages] people can't afford to get divorced.

Otherwise, sure, if you can afford to walk away from a marriage, do so immediately, then go bag some tail.

The nonsense about "Vows" being thrown back at you because you cheat, is ridiculous and hysterical. Humans are NOT naturally monogamous. If someone better comes along... someone better is going to get laid.

Those who say they wouldn't cheat... usually couldn't if their life depended on it.

Step 1: Cheating is triggered when there's a reason, rational or irrational.

Step 2: An opportunity is required.

People usually get tripped up with step 2 , because they can't attract anyone . When that happens, their marriage turns violent.

The lesson? ...Never get married if you can't attract others.


chiefconsultant6 74M

1/19/2019 7:25 pm

We share the same type of life.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/19/2019 7:54 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    It's always cool to cheat, and get away with cheating.

    "Cheating" is usually more of a matter of personal sanity, and ALL to often [those who cheat on their marriages] people can't afford to get divorced.

    Otherwise, sure, if you can afford to walk away from a marriage, do so immediately, then go bag some tail.

    The nonsense about "Vows" being thrown back at you because you cheat, is ridiculous and hysterical. Humans are NOT naturally monogamous. If someone better comes along... someone better is going to get laid.

    Those who say they wouldn't cheat... usually couldn't if their life depended on it.

    Step 1: Cheating is triggered when there's a reason, rational or irrational.

    Step 2: An opportunity is required.

    People usually get tripped up with step 2 , because they can't attract anyone . When that happens, their marriage turns violent.

    The lesson? ...Never get married if you can't attract others.
I identify with a lot of what you said in your comment. A divorce can cost in lawyer fees in the $ 50,000 to $100,000 dollar range. It easier to co exist. Sometimes life gets in the way and people to grow apart.


TravelingMan524 71M
241 posts
1/19/2019 8:40 pm

I prefer having sex with a couple so much less risk and twice the fun
.
Next preference ... married.

Last choice .... single .... too much risk of getting attached.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/22/2019 6:45 pm

    Quoting  :

The marriage might be already lost. It happens.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/22/2019 6:47 pm

    Quoting TravelingMan524:
    I prefer having sex with a couple so much less risk and twice the fun
    .
    Next preference ... married.

    Last choice .... single .... too much risk of getting attached.
Looks like people’s perspectives are developed by their needs. Fun, safety, attachment or lack of attachment.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/22/2019 8:34 pm

    Quoting lyavu:
    Getting married is a waste of time . How many remain faithful? Look at all the married people on the site .
I second that. ...but faithful or not... marriage is now a waste of time.


Meomy60CRNY 64M

1/22/2019 10:33 pm

Yhoughts to ponder


Golferfun123 36M

1/23/2019 7:55 am

Both need to be married. Both have same to lose


Rubbers4Men 54M/78M
22 posts
1/25/2019 2:48 pm

As a masseur, I'm one of the single people guys come to see. Some think it is safer to play with someone in their own situation. The ones I get don't see getting a massage with a happy ending as cheating per se, and because it is a business transaction, no chance at it turning into anything more...unless they take it in that direction.


Handsome12oo 41M
17 posts
1/25/2019 4:59 pm

Most responses are from one side. Need other side as well


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1/27/2019 9:32 am

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Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/27/2019 7:40 pm

    Quoting Handsome12oo:
    Most responses are from one side. Need other side as well
A valid point. Single and having an affair.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/27/2019 7:43 pm

    Quoting  :

Some people can go without, while others need sex to keep their identity and to help keep them sane in this world


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

1/27/2019 7:47 pm

    Quoting adsd5464565:
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Really not a great way to go considering all that is out there. Most likely a person should be more careful in their choice of who they get involved with.


beechjet21 53M
3 posts
2/2/2019 1:20 pm

Married people have more to lose and singles tend to become clingy and start asking "when are you going to leave your spouse for me"------Singles not worth the risk and hassle.


Letsmeetandfindo 65M

2/2/2019 2:24 pm

    Quoting beechjet21:
    Married people have more to lose and singles tend to become clingy and start asking "when are you going to leave your spouse for me"------Singles not worth the risk and hassle.
In general that can be the case. You could run into someone that is just looking for some fun. We are all here for some reason and looking for something specific. So you never know until you make that connection.


desert_alden 36M

2/10/2019 12:53 pm

prob married...


Btown6984 39M
12 posts
2/14/2019 8:16 am

Married as you know, you both need to be a secret


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