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caution about 'for your eyes only' posts....
Posted:Feb 8, 2016 9:56 am
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2016 5:02 pm
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If you have been corresponding with someone via your 'for your eyes only' blog and their profile is deleted, it seems as if all those private posts between you and this person then become public. Just a heads up. Perhaps this is a fluke, a glitch..but.it happened to me and I've only had this particular scenario happen to me once so....
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Just curious...
Posted:Feb 4, 2016 8:40 pm
Last Updated:Feb 7, 2016 4:45 pm
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Why does Horny.net choose to fill my main profile page with videos and pics of gay guys sucking another gay guy's cock? I have nothing against gay guys, don't get me wrong...but I'm a straight female....I'm not even bi. Doesn't my Horny.net filter work in regards to what is chosen for my main profile page? Aren't there like hundreds of straight guys that Horny.net could choose to post pics and videos of on my main page?
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Jafo is MIA
Posted:Feb 2, 2016 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Feb 6, 2016 7:56 am
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I see that Jafo has put his profile on hold...not sure if he also deleted his blogs or if those are hidden because his profile is not available.

If anyone chats with him off site, please let him know that he is missed and that if he wants to talk to me, he knows how to reach me. I've left him a few messages with no response.

Thanks.
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I had to block a friend tonight
Posted:Jan 22, 2016 3:07 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2019 1:58 pm
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I guess if you have to end up blocking someone, they aren't really a friend...in my case anyway because it takes a lot for me to block someone.

In case you aren't familiar with the term blocking....when you are in a chat room, there is a list to the left of the chat screen of all the ppl in the room. If someone becomes abusive, you can click on their handle, click on 'ignore' and voila...you do not see anything they post in the chat room. They can still see what you post but at least you don't see their abusive chat.

There is a woman in one of my regular chat rooms....she can be totally fine and then, all of a sudden, she turns nasty, mean and starts bullying ppl. She has many, many prejudices and is very vocal about them. She doesn't stop when we ask her to so most of us have her on iggy. Many ppl have left the chat room because of her abuse.

A guy 'friend' of mine likes her and has dated her in real life. We've had our differences but have always ironed them out. I have given him respect to make his own decision regarding this woman and have supported his decisions regarding her, even though she is verbally abusive to him at times, just like she is in the room to others. He has told me this himself.

Tonight, this woman was on a roll. From the moment i went into the chat room, hateful words came out of her...about cops (and there were 4 service ppl in the room at the time), about fat ppl, about disabled , mixed marriages, gays, lesbians...etc etc etc
I left to chat in another room. Apparently ppl started talking about this bully woman and what she'd said earlier...after the woman had left the room. I don't condone that. However, they were just repeating what she'd said. Apparently, my male friend was in the room and relayed everything they were saying back to her so she came back into the room.

I went back into the room and unknowingly, right into the middle of the fray. This woman had the gall to say she'd reported the ppl for talking about her in a negative way. I reminded her how she'd verbally harrassed ppl earlier but of course, it was no use.
Worst part was, my male friend backed her up.
After much back and forth stuff, and after most ppl had had enough and had left the room, i finally blocked them both. Even my friend. I told him I was going to block him and he said he didn't care.
So though I know it was the right thing to do (and I should have done it earlier in the evening), it still saddens me that this 'friendship' has gone down this path.
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stuff n such
Posted:Jan 19, 2016 7:37 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2016 4:39 pm
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Just my ramblings on this darkTuesday evening...

My in law has had the worst cough for two days now...she's congested and miserable and I feel so bad for her. Now my is coming down with something too...not sure what but he's miserable as well.

So...I am staying away from them as much as possible while also giving them as much assistance as they will allow me to give them. They are 35+ years old so they don't really want the same help from me that I used to be able to give my when they were sick . But I really don't want to get sick either. At least the apartment is clean, dishes are done and I get water and blankets for them when I venture out of my room.

I was kind of hoping that a guy I chatted with briefly on IM last week would call to set up the real life meet he'd suggested for Monday but he didn't. Maybe he still will, I don't know and I'm ok with it. He wanted a FWB and I entertained the thought of doing that...and I still am....part of me is anyway lol We'll see how it goes.

You know what I call a good friend? Someone you can respectfully argue with and still be friends. Someone you want to talk to even though you know they will disagree with you or, at the very least, have a totally different viewpoint from yours. Someone who listens as much as they talk. No judgements. Then there's the added bonus if there is flirting between you both. That's just a bonus, it's not required lol

The other day, I was in a chat room and a woman younger than myself was camming. Tho she was naked, for the time being, she wasn't showing everything...she had the camera strategically place so ppl could get a view of enough to keep them interested, head, shoulders and enough lower but not 'too much'. I know later she did go further as she is a regular cammer. In fact, she told us that she got paid to cam on another site, so she knew what she was doing. She said she didn't do it for the points on this site tho. I didn't watch much of her on cam, just took a peek to see what the guys were excited about.

But as the guys were drawn to her cam and drawn into excited, sexy chat with her in the room, it crossed my mind...wonder if I should do that? In a soft, sensual way, of course. I have cammed before, head and shoulders only and clothed...but I wondered if I could cam like she was, at the beginning? I wouldn't go any further....I am not interested in going down that road.

Later, I mentioned to a friend in the room that I was thinking of doing that. He was one of the avid watchers of the woman's cam. He asked me if I really wanted that kind of attention. After a couple of minutes thought, I told him we all craved that kind of attention once in awhile. He agreed.
I just thought it was a strange question to ask when he'd been an active participant in the woman camming. It felt a bit odd to have to explain that I have those feelings just like other women do.

I would never do anything that wasn't 'me'. At the same time, I do explore outside the box....we need to, to keep life fun, interesting....while still being who we are at our core.

Happy Tuesday everyone

Oh, here's a pic that I will be using as inspiration for my next full body sculpture. This will be a challenge!

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Expecting a potential partner to change....
Posted:Jan 10, 2016 5:42 pm
Last Updated:Jan 21, 2016 12:26 pm
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I have always been of the opinion that I cannot and should not expect a potential long term relationship partner to make any significant changes in who they are as a person in order for us to be together. I am not talking about FWB or casual sex partners...I am talking about long term relationship stuff.

If I want this person bad enough in my life, I must accept them, as is...good, bad and ugly...just as I expect them to accept me...good, bad and ugly.

If there is something they do or if they have an attitude towards something that is really bothersome to me, really really bothersome...I can choose not to engage in the relationship.

And vice versa. He can talk to me about something I do or some way that I view something that he really really disagrees with and he can choose not to engage in the relationship.

That being said, I have also been of the opinion that when two ppl get together, there is invariably going to be some compromises made. Maybe he doesn't like to eat fish so much so instead of three times a week, you cut it down to once a week. Or, on the plus side, perhaps you love to go for a leisurely bike ride at least once a week...he has never been on a bike but hey, he's willing to give it a try.

How far would you make changes to your lifestyle for someone you really like in order to be with them?

Say you've smoked for 30 years...you have tried to quit but unsuccessfully and, in fact, you enjoy the habit, it relaxes you....if she told you she would have nothing to do with you unless you stopped smoking, would you?

Let's say you love watching football on Sunday. She hates football with a passion. You know that if you were together, as in living together, you would have to give up watching football. No room for compromise. Would you?

Let's say she is very vocal with her opinions, to the point of being a bit abusive with her choice of words and prejudices. Would it be within reason for you to ask and expect her to tone it down?

I am not making any judgements here...I am truly curious about other's opinions on this.
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Caring words taken differently than expected
Posted:Jan 5, 2016 2:23 pm
Last Updated:Jan 6, 2016 7:32 pm
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I have someone I would loosely call a friend on this site...loosely because it seems a bit one-sided...I am struggling with that and ok with it at the moment. I know those are contradictory; guess it depends on the moment lol

He was dating...involved with....having dinner with...whatever you want to call it....with a woman in his area...they are both on this site and met here.

I won't go into details because privacy is important. Most of you know me well enough to know I am pretty tolerant, level-headed, understanding, etc so when I say I was concerned for his safety...at least his mental well-being...I hope you can understand what I mean. At times she is verbally abusive in the chat room we frequent and this male friend told me she'd been equally as vocal towards him on at least on occasion on one of their 'dates'. I made sure I always told him I would support whatever decision he made, he is an adult, I respect him, all that.

He has no problem telling me in the room if someone I am chatting with is appropriate for me (most of the time, when that other person is not in the room)....too far away...too old....too young....what not to do on a first date with someone....I know he is just looking out for my welfare.

So I carefully told him about my concerns. This isn't just me who feels this way about this woman. Many ppl have her on permanent iggy. I reminded him that he felt ok telling me what he thought about the ppl I chose to chat with so I was doing the same back to him. And I again told him i would support whatever decision he made.

His response was that there were too many things about himself that this woman didn't like, so it would not go any further than just a friendship.

A couple of evenings ago, this male friend was chatting in a room with another woman he is friends with and I was there as well...he was not chatting with me as much lol and I'm cool with that. He told this woman that he'd gotten a lot of 'crap' from ppl about being with the other woman.

I just had to laugh. My carefully worded message of concern for his welfare was 'crap'.

Lesson learned. Unless you are really, really, really good friends, don't give out advice....even if they are free about giving you advice every time you turn around...they usually want to dish it out but don't want to have it dished back to them.

Hence, the struggle with the 'friends' definition. lol Live and learn.
He's an ok guy...and I will be chatty with him but no more advice giving, that's for sure!

Thanks for listening.
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Maybe I overdid it?
Posted:Dec 27, 2015 11:13 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2016 1:37 pm
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Several months ago, I chatted with a nice older gentleman in one of the chat rooms. We seemed to hit it off so after a few mail exchanges on the site, we started chatting privately off site.
We chatted that way for a couple of weeks, about twice a week. After getting to know each other, we each shared some personal life experiences and expressed an interest in meeting...but...he lives in the midwest and I live on the west coast. That damn Horny.net rule lol
Then one evening, he started to talk a bit more sexually explicit. Cyber sex. I am a hugger, even on-line; that was about all the intro to this change.
I had a couple statements on my profile that I wasn't interested in cyber sex, that I was looking for real life (and for those of you that then ask why the hell was I chatting with someone in the midwest? Because, at that time, I felt a connection could be made with anyone, anywhere...location was not an issue if it was good enough).
So, I gently and respectfully told him I did not want to go down that path...that always makes me feel like a prude but I know I'm not...so I stick to my feelings lol

Long story short, we did not chat extensively after that. I said hello a couple of times and he said hello back, he was busy at work, etc. I saw him in a chat room a few weeks later and I was friendly with him but kept it cordial for the most part.

Did I learn my lesson?
Hell no lol

A couple of weeks later...same scenario....I am an eternal optimist, glass half-full kind of person, believe ppl are essentially good until they prove me wrong. Well, he showed me after a few weeks of chatting that he also was only interested in cyber sex. I said my usual 'not going down that road' and away he went.

So....after that, I updated my profile. Re-arranged things, underlined and bolded some statements...

And it worked! I wanted to make it more clear to guys what I wanted and expected regarding distance, cyber sex and a few other points. And voila! No more guys hitting on me for cyber sex lol I still get the ones from real young guys and guys of all ages asking if I want to meet up...delete or I reply, tell them they are gold so they need to read my profile.

Now I'm wondering if I over did it? I am sincerely wanting to get some advice and feedback....when you have a few minutes, if you feel so inclined, could you read my profile and let me know if I over-did it with the bolding, underlining, etc?
It's almost a new year and I'd like to start out on the right foot
Thanks!
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Do You Ever Feel Like Just....
Posted:Dec 21, 2015 11:41 am
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2016 7:15 pm
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...chatting?

Hmmm I wonder what thoughts went through your mind when you read that opening title?

It is a gray, chilly, rainy Monday morning. I have a few chores I need to do but here I am, still in my pj's, on the computer, looking to see if anyone just wants to chat. Not about sex.... hence my hesitation for choosing the IM road. lol

I know, I know...I'm weird. Chatting and not about sex? I guess, with the right person, it could lean that way but not really what I'm initially wanting.

Perhaps I am just looking for someone to help me procrastinate in doing those chores. Cuz if there's no one to just chat with...I have to do the chores. lol

Have you ever had a day like this?

This would be a great day to sit on the couch, with a friend, covered with a blanket, coffee in hand, watching a good movie while watching it rain outside.



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Childhood dreams...good ones
Posted:Dec 20, 2015 6:53 pm
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2015 8:29 am
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I remember, when I was about 13, having a dream of living up in Alaska and being a guide for hiking trips up into the wild land. Live alone in a log house on a lake with a view of high, craggy mountains in the distance. And of course, snow. And the big fireplace, and time to do just about anything during the winter that I wanted to do.

Some ppl as have dreams of what they want to be when they grow up and actually plot a course in life in that general direction. Lawyer, doctor, policeman, serviceman in the military....

It never occurred to me as a 13 year old to do that. So maybe it was more of a fantasy than a dream of a real-life existence? Or perhaps it was just the way I was raised...that outlandish dreams such as living in Alaska were not treated seriously. Hmmmm now I wonder if I ever told anyone about this dream?

I ended up with my second dream job....being a full time mother and caretaker of the home....it's a huge responsibility and I was serious about it.

Now, I still want to live where it snows in the winter...and Alaska does draw me though my body is older now...so no tour guiding for me lol




Have you ever had a good childhood dream? Did you tell anyone about it? Did you make it come true? Or did your dream change? Did life just intervene so your dream had to be put away?

And one last note....it's never too late to edit....even life.
Cheers and Happy Holidays everyone
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Private...or not?
Posted:Dec 19, 2015 12:38 am
Last Updated:Jan 15, 2016 9:22 pm
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Do you consider what you say to a friend in the mail system here on Horny.net to be private, between you and the other person, unless, of course, it violates any Horny.net TOU's, or is very rude and abusive and cause for being reported to Horny.net?

(btw, this post is not as a result of interactions with any of my blogger friends lol)
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is it appropriate to .....
Posted:Dec 18, 2015 9:33 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2015 5:28 pm
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Being that Horny.net has made it so difficult for Gold members and standard members to contact each other.....do you think it's appropriate for me to 'quote' a standard member who has commented on someone's blog post and ask them to contact me via my 'for your eyes only' blog?

I don't know if sending the standard member a message along with a friend invite does any good....are they able to read that message? Or do I have to be their 'top fan' for them to be able to read a message from me?

I am new to blogging and don't want to do anything inappropriate.

Thanks!
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To Be Or Not To Be...that is the question
Posted:Dec 7, 2015 1:19 pm
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2015 12:57 pm
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No, this isn't about Shakespeare LOL I could never get into reading Shakespeare because I never understood what he was saying. Same thing about parts of the Bible. Not that I'm comparing the two!

Anyhoooo.....

To be a Night Owl or not to be...that is the question...

Sometimes I do have insomnia and on those occasions, I have no choice but to be a Night Owl. And I embrace my insomniaciness. I am fortunate in that I am not working right now so if I am up until 3am, I can just sleep in a little bit.

I have insomnia about 2-3 times a month.

So, I can, most of the time, force myself out of the Night Owl status and become one of the day walkers again.

The problem is this: I enjoy being up at night. I would enjoy it even more if I had a window to look out into the black of night, see some street lights, house lights, open the window to hear the rain, hear a barking far away and, eventually, watch the blackness lighten up to dawn and slowly, I am not the only person on the planet who is awake. I used to have such a nice, big window behind my computer but now I don't....I do have a window in my bedroom where my computer is but....long story...I have to keep the shade closed....no, get your minds out of the gutter, it's not cuz I am a nudist LOL
One of my most favorite photos I've taken was a result of a night of insomnia. Back when I had that big window behind my computer....I saw the streaks of the sun rising in the sky, in the clouds...so I grabbed my little Panasonic Lumix, ran upstairs to the roof of the apartment building I was living in, set my camera on the railing and started taking pics of that beautiful sky as a backdrop for Mount Rainier to the south. In about ten minutes, the color show was over.
I also like to chat in the rooms in the wee hours of the morning because ppl from the other side of the world start coming into the rooms....it can lead to some interesting chat unless all they are interested in is getting a female to join them in IM for some sexy chat. Unlike American men, right? LOL

There are a couple of things I don't like about being a Night Owl....first is that I live in a three bedroom nice apartment with my and his wife....great arrangement really except I am always afraid I am going to wake them up when I have to leave my bedroom to avail myself of the main bathroom facilities in our apartment. Or get something to drink from the kitchen. So far, they have not said anything.
Second, and most important...I also like the early morning hours. I really don't like sleeping in until 10 or 11am because I was up until 6am. By the time I wake up, half the day is gone. Yes, it is true in that I don't actually lose those hours....my 'day' is just extended into the night hours....it just feels like I have lost those hours. To be having my first cup of coffee and bowl of cheerios and milk at lunchtime just feels....wrong lol It also means that I have to get right into doing my household chores because my (who works full time) and my in law (who is a full time student) will be home about dinner time and I need to have my chores done by then. I don't want to be cleaning out the litter box while my prepares dinner lol They probably wouldn't care, but I do. And on the weekends, when I am getting up at 11am and they have been up for several hours, I feel like the roles have been reversed lol I am the lazy , sleeping the day away...I fully expect my and his wife to say something to that affect but, so far, they have not.

So....do I force myself out of this sleep/wake cycle so that I can, once again, join the day walkers or....do I let my screwed up inside clock stay screwed up and just accept that my day begins at noon?

To Be Or Not To Be....that is the question
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