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multiple profiles just to harrass ppl
Posted:Dec 3, 2015 11:44 am
Last Updated:Dec 14, 2015 10:45 pm
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I am a frequent visitor to a public group room and I enjoy chatting with quite a few of the regulars there. Because I am a visitor there in the wee hours of the morning (I have insomnia), I often get to chat with ppl from the other side of the planet.

There are at least a couple of ppl who also visit the room on a regular basis but their only purpose is to harrass ppl. I just don't understand how ppl get such a thrill out of doing this that they spend hours preparing for and engaging in the harrassment.

The one main person has changed to a new profile six times in an hour because she knows ppl are iggying her. LOL Can you imagine how much time she spends creating these bogus, fake profiles ahead of time so that she can exit the room with one profile and re-enter the room within minutes with a new profile? And she makes these profiles 'unavailable' so her handle doesn't show up on the list of ppl chatting, making it more difficult to block her. She and her friends go back and forth, making nasty snide comments about what ppl are talking about, making up stories about ppl who are chatting....it's hilarious, sad and maddening all at the same time.
The one thing I am very happy about in this room is that no one attacks this person and her friends. That is exactly what she wants....a fight. She and her friends are not worth the time and trouble. We go about our normal chatting and soon her harrassing posts blur into the background.
I hope that regulars in the room will continue to visit there....it is also a normal inclination to just leave the room due to the ridiculous harrassment...that's also what she wants.
It doesn't do any good to report her and her multiple handles to Horny.net. Her IP address changes all the time...as it does for all of us. You have to actually either pay or go through the computer process to keep one IP address. Since she doesn't want to be tracked, I am sure she lets hers change all the time.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I know most of us have run into members like this. I just have never understood their mentality....what about all of their harrassment thrills them? Is this really how they get fun in their lives? How sad.
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Bashing in a public chat room
Posted:Nov 16, 2015 1:28 pm
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2015 8:15 pm
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I had an interesting conversation with a friend in the wee hours of the morning today.

We are quite different from each other and I'm good with that...keeps things interesting!

It did leave me wondering something though and I would like to know what you all think....

let's say you are in a public room and you have two friends in the room with you, along with a lot of other people chatting, having a good time. You have actually gone out to dinner a few times with friend #1. You have not met friend #2 and she is just a friend, it won't go further than just friends. These two friends are just aquaintences in the room.

Friend #1 starts bashing friend #2 about some weird thing...their weight, the fact they are unemployed at the moment, their race, maybe friend #2 is bi-sexual...doesn't really matter what the bashing is about....friend #1 starts to get pretty nasty with her comments, derogitory and mean...

friend #2 is either being quiet or has asked friend #1 to quit with the bashing but she continues.

Up till now, you've been quiet.
My question is.....do you continue to just be quiet, knowing whatever you say to friend #1 (the one you've dated a few times, casually) will be ignored and you know she will get mad at you for speaking out against her.

Or, do you speak up in defense of friend #2, asking friend #1 to stop, even though you know it won't stop friend #1 from her bashing and it will get her mad at you. You would do this to show your support of friend #2.

What would you do?

No judgements here, I am just curious...
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My first meet-up with someone on Horny.net
Posted:Nov 12, 2015 2:46 pm
Last Updated:Dec 16, 2015 6:01 pm
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I was recently contacted by a guy, my age, local, who indicated he'd like to chat. He is a gold member and I knew he'd perved my profile, knew what I look like, knew a little bit about me. His profile is fairly blank. As is my usual, I replied, asked if he chatted in any of the public rooms at all. He replied no, he didn't, told me a little about himself and it did seem like we had a few things in common. So I asked if he chatted via an outside chat system. He said no, he didn't.
So, I did ask a few ppl on this site if they met with someone after only exchanging brief e:mails back and forth over the course of a week's time. The response was about 50/50 so I said ok, I will break my usual routine and meet with the guy, in a public place of course.
After some delay on his part, we finally did arrange our first meet. And it turned out great. He was easy to talk to and he said I was easy to talk to. We had even more in common, shared breakfast overlooking the sound, he bought me flowers, then he drove me home with a light kiss and we both agreed we wanted to meet again.
We did meet again, a week later. Friday night, dinner and a movie. I was hopeful. I wasn't sure how far things were going to go...but I got ready accordingly. lol Again, comfortable conversation, even delved into sex, as we did during our first date...it was easier because we were both from this site. We held hands during the movie. I offered to help pay but he refused my offer.
When he parked at my apt complex afterwards, he said he had a blast and did I want to do something again. I enthusiastically said yes. We kissed, a bit more passionately than before but only for a few seconds. He said he would call me the next day, Saturday, so we could talk about the details of our next date. It was only 11pm on a Friday night. I was a bit disappointed he didn't offer to go out for drinks or to just walk in the nice night air in the little downtown area of where I live. In retrospect, I probably should have made the suggestion. I am not used to doing that...I am a bit old-school, unfortunately.
No call Saturday.
No call Sunday.
I am not a stalker but because he is (was) in my Friend's Network, I could see he was online for much of both days. We had talked about how he enjoys watching cams.
Sunday late afternoon, I decided to send him a quick text. I am not one to bug a guy. I just wanted to find out what was going on. I told him I hoped he had a good afternoon. A few minutes later, he responded with 'you too'.
Five hours later...like 10pm on a Sunday night, he sent me an odd test. It said 'Thanks for slowing me down. We're friends first' I had no idea what he was talking about so I asked him. He replied, said he didn't know if I wanted to go out again. This was despite our parting agreement to another date in the car Friday night. I reminded him that he'd said he was going to call me on Saturday to talk about the details of another date. He said 'opps. sorry'. He then indicated he still wanted to go out again, said it was up to me though.
I admit, a few old tapes were playing that whole weekend when he didn't call. I am pretty easy going and I know life gets in the way of things. But the fact that he was online most of Saturday and Sunday told me life had not gotten in the way of fun. That was cool, more power to him. And no, he's sharp enough that alzeihmer's is not an issue lol
I was online chatting with friends on this site during this texting back and forth and I was helping my in the kitchen... and I did need some time to just think about it, figure out what I wanted to do. 45 minutes later, he texted me with 'Enough said. Good luck'. I replied, asking why he was not giving me time to think and respond.'
No response.
What bothers me most about this is that this isn't the first time a guy said all sorts of nice things about how we were clicking, how much we had in common, how easy I was to talk to, he was having a great time, etc etc and then bam, nothing. I don't reply to him within his time limits and he's throwing up his hands, done with it. So easily discarded.
I suppose it could be because I didn't offer sex that Friday night. I know the other two women who contacted him from this site pretty much were only interested in a one night stand. He said he did have sex with them but told me he wanted more than that. And if he really wanted sex that Friday night, he sure didn't give me any clues lol I've been out of the game for awhile but pretty sure I'd know if a guy wanted to go that route. lol
So I am left without really knowing what went on.
It has been almost a week and I've picked myself up, dusted off my tarnished halo lol Getting back on the again. It's frustrating not knowing exactly what the issue was but...shrugs...at least he showed up for two dates. I think we both had a good time. That's more than what a lot of ppl get when they arrange for a meet up with someone from the site.
Take care, have fun.
Thanks for listening.
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Being a BBW
Posted:Nov 5, 2015 12:23 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2015 1:09 am
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I usually hang out in my local room, the BBW room or the Mature room. If nothing is going on in those rooms, I venture into the Lobby.

Last night, I got my first taste of 50 year old men acting like teenagers, and not in a good way. I happened to comment that I usually hang out in the BBW room. I was quite shocked at the comments made by these guys towards BBW's in general...not only were they close-minded and childish...but...I'd also been in the room a few times and chatted with these guys. I am not friends with them by any means. I guess I thought they were above this name calling, hurtful shit. But I was wrong. Unfortunately.
I'm not whining. And it didn't make me fall to my knees, sobbing lol It actually just made me sad. I could not think of a thing to say to them in response. All I could do is shake my head and just laugh.
Funny thing was...the women in the room (the regulars, not me) did reply, in defense of bbw's. A couple even said they had ample curves.
I have always known men are visual creatures and women are more into what's inside.
And I know this was just a few guys. I am not one to put everyone in the same basket. Nor do I pass any judgement on these guys. They are who they are. I was just a little surprised is all.

Thanks for listening
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Easy to say yes, Difficult to say no
Posted:Nov 3, 2015 2:39 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2015 1:10 am
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Just my ramblings here....

I was told recently that dating/getting sex is easy for women and a lot different for men. All a woman has to do is say yes.

At the end of the conversation, I could see his point of view, especially as it applies to a woman getting sex.

My friend indicated his frustration at not having any control. If the woman did not ask for a second date, he was out of luck. Nothing he could do.

I can only speak for myself, as I told him. It seems to depend on what the woman wanted in the first place. And what the guy wanted. If all she wanted was a one night stand, some hot sex, and the guy was ok with that, then sure, all she has to do is say yes, get what she wants, never to be seen again. No second date.

If the woman wanted more than just sex, it's a different story. I want sex, intimacy, long foreplay, the whole nine yards. And I want a second date. And a third, lol And not just sex dates. It doesn't have to be a marriage proposal or a committment lol I have to ask myself, is this guy just looking for sex? Because if he is, then, despite my need for that physical release of good sex, I will have to say no to him.

So sometimes it's not easy for women either. Not when they have to say no.

Guys might say....screw that. lol just say yes, have fun, get on with it. Stop thinking so much and have fun. Especially if the guy is willing to wait a date or two before delving into the depths of hot, torrid sex I am starting to think that way as well and be fine with it. I will always have feelings for my partners, no matter how in-depth that relationship is. I've been that way with all two of my relationships in life lol.

I just needed to say that...sometimes, it's not easy for women, when they have to say no. And sometimes, we do have to say no. Speaking for myself, of course Just my opinion.

Take care and thanks for listening
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Question for the guys
Posted:Oct 30, 2015 3:23 pm
Last Updated:Sep 17, 2018 2:07 pm
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I recently chatted with a guy friend who indicated that he found it nicer when a woman asked him if he wanted to meet, rather than him being the one to ask. This was because he was quite shy and reserved and just found it difficult to get up the guts to do it.

How do you feel about this? Do some men find it a turn off when a woman asks....indicating she is too aggressive? Or perhaps it's a turn on, that she takes matters into her own hands, goes after what she wants? Or are you like my guy friend...you need the woman to ask or a meet probably will never happen?

Also, as a woman, I would like some advice from guys ...how do I know that a guy is interested enough that I should ask, when he doesn't? I drop hints....such as, I say 'let me know if you ever want to meet up' and he says 'you know I do'...but then he changes the subject fairly quickly....is that my clue to say 'ok, when and where?' or is the change of subject his way of backing out? Just like the guy who finds it difficult to ask, so do I...not a good combo! Any suggestions would be appreciated
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Does Horny.net monitor the blogs?
Posted:Oct 20, 2015 12:47 pm
Last Updated:Oct 26, 2015 12:16 pm
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As I was starting to write a blog about the inability of standard members to read or respond to mail now on this site, I remembered reading somewhere that someone thought Horny.net monitors our blogs. Is that true?
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Jealousy in a room here
Posted:Oct 18, 2015 3:46 pm
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2015 5:49 pm
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There can be three sides to interactions in a group room:
1.) you are the popular one, for whatever reason. You are camming, you are 30 something and super sexy or maybe just a regular in the room that everyone knows.
2.) You are one of the people in the room interacting quite a bit with #1, the popular one, along with many others in the room.
3.) You are an outside observer, left a bit out in the cold...maybe #1 is a female and you are a straight female that doesn't view female cams if they are playing or the opposite...you are a straight guy and #1 is a guy playing.

I have been in all three positions. I am a shy person, though I've been told I am a Chatty Kathy...I am just friendly and respond with more than the standard "I'm find...you?". So when I cam (done it twice..head and shoulders only), and I cammed with two other people in the room, just for fun, I think we did unintentionally steal the bulk of the convo and I felt bad about that, but, it rarely happens that I am in the #1 position above.

I am been in the #2 position only a few times. It's fun and usually flirty and feels good to be chatting so actively with quite a few people.

I have been in the #3 position quite a bit and it's this spot that my blog is about.

It's not fun to be in the #3 position. You do feel a bit left out but, you can try to strike up a convo with someone else in the same position or, you can just leave and find a different room to chat in.
The other choice some people make that is not fun for anyone else in the room, is to post a jealous remark, usually aimed at #1 and usually when #1 is a male, getting the attention of most of the females in the room. The jealous remark can bring down the fun value in the room almost instantly. Whoever made the remark is not thinking of anyone in the room but himself or herself. Again, I have often been in the #3 position so I know how it feels. Think of the other people in the room...we/they are having fun...that's the whole point of Horny.net. And there will come a time when you are in the #1 or #2 position. And when you are in the #1 or #2 position, you will be enjoying yourself and won't appreciate any jealous remarks made by others.
So if you are in the #3 spot and can't strike up a side convo with someone else in the room in the #3 spot, I am sure there is another room you can go to where you can find friends to chat with. Then come back and visit in the first room. Because we missed you.
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I am not dead
Posted:Oct 17, 2015 1:47 pm
Last Updated:Mar 2, 2016 7:33 am
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I had a funny, interesting chat in the BBW room yesterday. This blog in no way is a rant, a criticism, nothing negative. It is must my observation and the chat actually made me chuckle a little.

I am a 60 year old female. Not married. Not attached. Divorced since 1994. I am often one of the oldest chatters in a room. However, that doesn't mean I don't like to flirt...and because most everyone in the room is younger than I am...I flirt with younger men. And they flirt back. Sometimes they are serious, as they have no age boundaries...and sometimes it's just for fun and we both know it. I am always sincere in my flirting...and I expect they are as well, tho that does have to be taken with a grain of salt since I usually don't know them.

I do have age limits though they are not written in stone. I have been on Horny.net for about five years now, off and on. I came back this time about five months ago. This is the first time I've encountered young men interested in older bbw's. Hence why my rules are not written in stone....I have not had a lot of time to process this concept. I am very, very cautious with anyone under 50 years old. There are men who think bbw's and especially older bbw's are desperate and therefore easy. I am neither. I like sex as much as the next woman. I have been burned. I can be quite naive. So I'm cautious.

Yesterday evening, a 40+ attractive young man and I were flirting...casually...he was playfully friendly with several ladies and it was just fun. He was not aggressive, just quietly down to earth and many ladies appreciated that. In the course of all the chat going on between all of us, I indicated my flirting was just harmless, just for fun. Another 40+ young man asked why it was just for fun. I replied that 40 something was a bit too young for me.

Then he asked....'why is that? Things don't work anymore?'

I just had to laugh. What an assumption and a jump to a conclusion. I carefully worded my response. I said "Nope, everything works better than ever, hon. I just have age boundaries but enjoy flirting. I am not dead.'

I hoped that my response was not overly critical of his statement. After I thought about it, it was actually a reasonable thing to think. I'd just never had anyone say that to me and it made me laugh. I got a few ^5's from other people in the room so I know I wasn't the only one who does not consider being over 60 a reason to stop being interested in sex or to have things 'not work anymore'. Sure, things do change with age. Maybe that's why I gravitate toward men closer to my own age: I know they also are experiencing changes.
But, I have always been open-minded. Putting too many boundaries up and you could miss out on something important and fun.

Thanks for listening. Have a great day.
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Using the iggy button
Posted:Oct 16, 2015 12:17 pm
Last Updated:Nov 14, 2015 1:35 pm
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Let's say you know you are a reasonably respectful person...you don't blow up in the rooms at anyone, you are not overly aggressive, you are open-minded and respectful of the diversity presented to us on this site......you do quietly present your opinion on a subject brought up in a public room, even if your opinion is contrary to popular opinion...and you always end your post with 'this is only my opinion'. You are well-liked by 99.9% of people you interact with on the site.

Then you find out someone has iggied you. You have no recollection of even chatting with this person so have no idea why they chose to iggy you.

You ask in the room why so-and-so has you on iggy. Did you do or say something to offend them?

You are instantly called a whiner because the fact that you are iggied bothers you and you want to know the details.

yes, we should all have that high self-esteem that we should not care if someone chooses to iggy you.

But I just wonder why you would be labeled a whiner for wanting to know the details. We all need to learn from past mistakes. Finding out the circumstances surrounding someone iggying you could help you improve, learn, etc. And maybe they misunderstood something you said or did and the issue is resolved.

Anyway, that's my rant for the moment
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Would you pay $15 a YEAR for Gold Membership?
Posted:Oct 10, 2015 1:29 pm
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2015 12:04 pm
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Let's face it. What we want as Horny.net users is at the bottom of the list for Horny.net execs. They want to make money. Guess we all can understand that tho we disagree with how Horny.net is going about it.

[B]As a Standard Member, if Horny.net offered Gold Membership, with full access to the site, for $15 a YEAR, would you pay for that?

Another question....because of the recent problem with privacy on the site, do you feel comfortable paying for membership with a credit card or debit card? If not, how would you suggest being able to pay for membership?
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