Setting and Keeping Goals  

sexyldy1000 58F  
1448 posts
1/18/2019 7:46 pm
Setting and Keeping Goals

Why are some goals so hard to keep? And why do we keep setting the same goals - again and again - even after we fail?

According to psychologist Dr. Janet Polivy, several new studies show that the human brain is โ€œhard-wiredโ€ to be optimistic- which drives us to challenge ourselves, and believe that we can achieve new things. But Dr. Polivy says there are times when our optimism can get the best of us, and sabotage our chances of success because we tend to set unrealistically high expectations for ourselves. This helps explain why millions of us set resolutions each year but only 1-in-10 of us succeed.

Do you set personal goals or make resolutions? How well do achieve or keep them?




Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


Italiancalidude 46M
147 posts
1/18/2019 7:56 pm

I like to set and achieve goals.๐Ÿ˜Š


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:00 pm

I think goal setting evolves over time. They can be personal or business-related. I stopped making resolutions a long time ago. Instead, I take time to reflect on my experience here and personally.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


BrisWarrior 37M
12 posts
1/18/2019 8:03 pm

Yes and not very well. The problem is that the holiday season is not finished until weโ€™ll into the new year. Surely it would be easier once the working year has commenced


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:09 pm

    Quoting BrisWarrior:
    Yes and not very well. The problem is that the holiday season is not finished until weโ€™ll into the new year. Surely it would be easier once the working year has commenced
Yes. Getting back into 'routine' helps you stay focused.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


ltrlover1 61M
141 posts
1/18/2019 8:16 pm

Absolutely right, staying focused, looking forward, Reflecting On yesterday with eye sights on the future

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easy_going2014 52M
9594 posts
1/18/2019 8:20 pm

Hi sexyldy1000.

thanks for sharing this post...

I don't shoot for goals or resolutions... I've been blessed...

I try to be a better person... a better listener... stay positive...

but, I'm not going to cure cancer or fix anyone...

I do hope that a melonlicious breasted goddess finds me...

happy new year!!!

Lady Gaga - "Look What I Found"

I'm alone in my house
I'm out on the town
I'm at the bottom of the bottle
I've been knockin' them down
I can't get back up on my feet
See the lights all on the streetlight stars
But look what I found
Look what I found
Another piece of my heart
Just layin' on the ground
Another foggy day
I'm looking for a light
And my only prayer
Is working tonight
I can't get myself out of bed
Hear these voices in my head like a song...


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:32 pm

    Quoting ltrlover1:
    Absolutely right, staying focused, looking forward, Reflecting On yesterday with eye sights on the future
Yes I agree. It's good to see someone else feels the same way.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


Kalbi54 64M  
1108 posts
1/18/2019 8:33 pm

I stopped making them decades ago (darn I'm old). I just try to be a little better than last year. If all of us make a 1% improvement every year and if we live to be 75, that's a 75% improvement. That's pretty good in my opinion.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:35 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi sexyldy1000.

    thanks for sharing this post...

    I don't shoot for goals or resolutions... I've been blessed...

    I try to be a better person... a better listener... stay positive...

    but, I'm not going to cure cancer or fix anyone...

    I do hope that a melonlicious breasted goddess finds me...

    happy new year!!!

    Lady Gaga - "Look What I Found"

    I'm alone in my house
    I'm out on the town
    I'm at the bottom of the bottle
    I've been knockin' them down
    I can't get back up on my feet
    See the lights all on the streetlight stars
    But look what I found
    Look what I found
    Another piece of my heart
    Just layin' on the ground
    Another foggy day
    I'm looking for a light
    And my only prayer
    Is working tonight
    I can't get myself out of bed
    Hear these voices in my head like a song...
Sounds like a logical, common sense approach Easy.
Thanks for sharing that song. Haven't heard of it before so will have to give it a listen.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:42 pm

So you are focused and goal oriented? How are you at achieving them?

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 8:45 pm

    Quoting Kalbi54:
    I stopped making them decades ago (darn I'm old). I just try to be a little better than last year. If all of us make a 1% improvement every year and if we live to be 75, that's a 75% improvement. That's pretty good in my opinion.
Imagine the peace and harmony if everyone undertook that goal!
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


lonlyforlove2 76M  
1351 posts
1/18/2019 8:48 pm

"This helps explain why millions of us set resolutions each year but only 1-in-10 of us succeed."

Just think, this is a big number, assume there are 300 million Americans ( not to disregard any other population) and 10% of them keep a resolution, look at that number, 30,000,000 will have done a good deed. never set goals that are easy, then the rewards are not as worthy,

A goal can be simple as , just being a better person, doing a bit better than last year.. don't have to say โ€ฆ" I am going to lose 40 pounds and go to gym each day, " the simple ones that you have a realistic chance of achieving are very good goals, but think, some where in you life there is something that you can make better, make life more comfy, find one of these and try hard, be a 10%er


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 9:00 pm

You are right, There are known basics to setting SMART and effective goals:
Specific
Measureable
Achievable
Realistic
Time-based

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


lonlyforlove2 76M  
1351 posts
1/18/2019 9:16 pm

And I try to make some simple ones,,

Out with the old and in with the new.....

Image

Just so simple replace last years all propose medicinal supplies with a new one...


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 9:22 pm

An interesting approach that seems economical.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


PAWAPh 42M
4373 posts
1/18/2019 9:39 pm

I Do!

76%

Jack


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 9:48 pm

Beating the odds are you?

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


Renocandyman 43M
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1/18/2019 9:53 pm

Hello, how are you


s2ndegree 60M  
8599 posts
1/18/2019 9:54 pm

Being responsible on a daily
basis gives me the best
satisfaction and eliminates
that sense of letting myself down.
Resolutions are just a last minute
reminder that we should have
been doing something instinctively
throughout the year.

Using more than all the road!


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 10:40 pm

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    Being responsible on a daily
    basis gives me the best
    satisfaction and eliminates
    that sense of letting myself down.
    Resolutions are just a last minute
    reminder that we should have
    been doing something instinctively
    throughout the year.
An interesting perspective. Thanks for stopping by.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/18/2019 10:52 pm

Doing great thank you.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


JoshRook7 22M
50 posts
1/18/2019 11:30 pm

You hit the nail on the head with the image accompanying your post^.
"A goal without a plan is just a wish."

One of the reasons many goals fail is that we set hefty, often vapid goals, with no clear plan to actually achieve them. It's better to break your goals up into small actions that you can easily get your head around.

Focusing on these steps will leave you better off than setting general goals.


mc_justmc 58M  
4442 posts
1/19/2019 2:05 am

I can usually set and meet my goals, but that's because I know myself well enough to set them in small increments and don't beat myself up if I misstep. There's always a new day and a new chance to get things done.


Granny872 66F  
650 posts
1/19/2019 3:12 am

I often think about things I'd like to accomplish, then I write them down on a list. The list is often long.

If I achieve 50% of what I write down for a day, I'm happy. Seeing all those things crossed off on a list deceives my mind a little, but hey, euphoria is good, right?

The goals I don't achieve as fast as I'd like are usually the ones that are the most unpleasant or require the most work. Go figure.

One.step.at.a.time.

L

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 3:18 am

    Quoting JoshRook7:
    You hit the nail on the head with the image accompanying your post^.
    "A goal without a plan is just a wish."

    One of the reasons many goals fail is that we set hefty, often vapid goals, with no clear plan to actually achieve them. It's better to break your goals up into small actions that you can easily get your head around.

    Focusing on these steps will leave you better off than setting general goals.
Yes I agree that an action plan is necessary in order to help achieve your goals.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 3:21 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I can usually set and meet my goals, but that's because I know myself well enough to set them in small increments and don't beat myself up if I misstep. There's always a new day and a new chance to get things done.
Thatโ€™s a great attitude and approach.
Thanks ๐Ÿ™ for sharing your perspective.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 3:23 am

    Quoting Granny872:
    I often think about things I'd like to accomplish, then I write them down on a list. The list is often long.

    If I achieve 50% of what I write down for a day, I'm happy. Seeing all those things crossed off on a list deceives my mind a little, but hey, euphoria is good, right?

    The goals I don't achieve as fast as I'd like are usually the ones that are the most unpleasant or require the most work. Go figure.

    One.step.at.a.time.

    L
Wow! You are very disciplined if you are able to set daily goals and track your success in achieving them.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


chiefconsultant6 69M  
495 posts
1/19/2019 4:29 am

Goals are really important as they are all over the business world and personal world. In business I made goals that were attainable but then stretched them a bit further to help obtain growth. Personally my goals are realistic and few. I have had the goal to lose weight for a 100 years and it has only partially worked so I don't to it anymore. A realistic goal this year is to get naked in an adult theater, nude private party, nude beach or nudist club at least 8 times. All possible. I reached 5 last year and reached that goal. I am trying for growth now.


Paulxx001 61M
5867 posts
1/19/2019 4:37 am

Sure... Goals are great...
I woke up this morning...
I guess, I can cross THAT one, off my list...

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sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 4:39 am

    Quoting chiefconsultant6:
    Goals are really important as they are all over the business world and personal world. In business I made goals that were attainable but then stretched them a bit further to help obtain growth. Personally my goals are realistic and few. I have had the goal to lose weight for a 100 years and it has only partially worked so I don't to it anymore. A realistic goal this year is to get naked in an adult theater, nude private party, nude beach or nudist club at least 8 times. All possible. I reached 5 last year and reached that goal. I am trying for growth now.
Yes the goals we set for business and personally are quite different. You certainly have an interesting mix!

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 4:41 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Sure... Goals are great...
    I woke up this morning...
    I guess, I can cross THAT one, off my list...
Would be kind of hard to track โœ๏ธit if you hadnโ€™t achieved it

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


redrockrascal 60M
19703 posts
1/19/2019 6:05 am

Do you set personal goals or make resolutions? How well do achieve or keep them?

I don't do New Year resolutions. When something needs to be fixed or changed I figure out what is actually needed and do what I can with the resources I have available.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 6:13 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Do you set personal goals or make resolutions? How well do achieve or keep them?

    I don't do New Year resolutions. When something needs to be fixed or changed I figure out what is actually needed and do what I can with the resources I have available.
I am the same ๐Ÿ˜Š. I stopped making NY resolutions a long time ago.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


Paulxx001 61M
5867 posts
1/19/2019 10:09 am

...sff ,ecnereffid a ekam yllaer ti seod ...

Words are like meatloaf- they can be sculpted into any shape you choose.
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sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 10:20 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    ...sff ,ecnereffid a ekam yllaer ti seod ...
Right back at you ๐Ÿฅถ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐Ÿคช๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿ™Š

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


Tmptrzz 56F  
55023 posts
1/19/2019 10:44 am

I hear ya hun and I don't do either, I just live one day at a time as we only have one life to live and we should enjoy and make the best of it as we can. I hope your enjoying your weekend..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 11:06 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I hear ya hun and I don't do either, I just live one day at a time as we only have one life to live and we should enjoy and make the best of it as we can. I hope your enjoying your weekend..
Totally agree with you!
Here's it's freezing cold with lots of snow expected so staying tucked inside as much as possible until it passes.
Hope that you continue to feel better each day.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


misskissin 55F  
76127 posts
1/19/2019 8:16 pm

I don't make new years resolutions but I do try to set goals.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/19/2019 10:48 pm

    Quoting misskissin:
    I don't make new years resolutions but I do try to set goals.
Based on the responses, it seems many people are the same as you.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


1Sexygoodguy11 53M  
78 posts
1/24/2019 8:13 pm

As a revelation I have discovered in the past few years about reaching your goals is on the level of time and commitment that you are willing to commit. This can be accomplished when you set aside a reasonable amount of specific time and place to do the work. Key word is, Work! I can easily equate this example to that of taking an online class.
When I took my online nutrition class last semester, I knew that I needed to set aside days and times to complete it and to get a good grade. Once I made a commitment that I needed to treat the online class like I would need to go to a classroom, reaching my goals was made possible.
If I have goals in life, which I have a few major ones, the best way to achieve them is setting aside the proper amount of time in my busy schedule and do the WORK! There may be some detours along the way, but as long as you keep your eye on the prize, you can achieve your realistic goals in life.

Stay Sexy My Friend.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/24/2019 8:55 pm

    Quoting 1Sexygoodguy11:
    As a revelation I have discovered in the past few years about reaching your goals is on the level of time and commitment that you are willing to commit. This can be accomplished when you set aside a reasonable amount of specific time and place to do the work. Key word is, Work! I can easily equate this example to that of taking an online class.
    When I took my online nutrition class last semester, I knew that I needed to set aside days and times to complete it and to get a good grade. Once I made a commitment that I needed to treat the online class like I would need to go to a classroom, reaching my goals was made possible.
    If I have goals in life, which I have a few major ones, the best way to achieve them is setting aside the proper amount of time in my busy schedule and do the WORK! There may be some detours along the way, but as long as you keep your eye on the prize, you can achieve your realistic goals in life.
Thanks for sharing your perspective on setting and achieving goals.
I agree that it takes time, commitment and sustained effort.
Good luck with your ongoing studies!

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
1/31/2019 3:18 pm

My goal each and every day is to wake up ๐Ÿ˜Š
Every day is a blessing ๐Ÿ™ and I take nothing for granted.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
2/4/2019 11:14 am

As I have mentioned before, I do not make NY resolutions. I prefer to reflect on the past and determine what I have learned from it and use that to help in the journey forward.

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


rodnagi 30M
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2/6/2019 9:06 pm

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sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
2/7/2019 1:32 am

    Quoting rodnagi:
    It's time to love each other >>> https://is.gd/nSjcUldygdyg
Sounds like a worthy goal ๐Ÿ˜Š

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
2/8/2019 10:25 pm

    Quoting  :

Self-improvement is a worthy goal

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


NeedANastyGirl45 34M
17 posts
2/16/2019 5:38 pm

So im just never gonna make goals, this way anything I do is above expectations


sexyldy1000 58F  
2450 posts
2/16/2019 6:53 pm

    Quoting NeedANastyGirl45:
    So im just never gonna make goals, this way anything I do is above expectations
Yes that should be a successful approach ๐Ÿ‘

Stimulate my mind and the possibilities are endless.


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