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Are You Living Your Dreams or Living Your Fears?  

sexyldy1000 68F  
10139 posts
9/3/2020 11:49 am
Are You Living Your Dreams or Living Your Fears?



Many people are not doing what they want t.o. do, they're doing the things they're afraid not t.o, do.

Think about i.t . We fear the consequences of failure. We think about how others will react t.o. our failure. The best way t.o. guarantee that you will not fail is t.o. not try.

Living your dreams can be risky. There's always the possibility of failure. But, there's, also the possibility of success, right?

You can achieve anything that you desire in life if you are willing t.o. do what i.t. takes t.o. achieve i.t.

Tony Robbins puts i.t. this way, “The thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”

If you want to live the life of your dreams you need to focus on the present, keep your eyes on the future, and leave the past behind.

Are you living your dreams? Do you consider yourself successful?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/3/2020 12:00 pm

To me, the definition of success is very personal and not measured in dollars and cents. I know I can look myself in the mirror and say, I have done the best that I can by tackling every obstacle and challenge, head-on.


1salesman3 69M
7623 posts
9/3/2020 1:03 pm

I really like Tony Robbins books.


HermanG67 56M
8464 posts
9/3/2020 1:04 pm

if being happy is a dream, I'm living it 👍


dogslife2live01 71M

9/3/2020 1:44 pm

if you try there is a 50% chance you will fail
if you do not try here is a 100% chance you will fail

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


AnewWoman 65F
273 posts
9/3/2020 1:52 pm

Great post. I am neither rich or famous, nor do I care to be. My tag line for years has been "Living my dream." I've been truly blessed to be able to live my life the way I feel is right for me rather than trying to live a life others think I should live.


justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
9/3/2020 2:08 pm

The beauty and terror of technology (especially social media) is that we can (and all too often do) live our entire lives in *real time*. We spend every bit of our waking hours absorbing, processing and reacting to a relentless bombardment of information. As a result, few of us even bother to *dream big* any more. Fixated on our screens, we squander the physical, intellectual and emotion resources necessary to build and follow through with our ambitions.

So what to do? Personally, I have reduced social media time by over 50% (primarily by no longer opening either Facebook or Instagram), focusing instead on setting and implementing personal near-term and long-term goals. One (marginally) positive consequence of the Pandemic for me has been reduced travel and social interaction, thus freeing-up even more time for introspection and personal development.

If we can force ourselves to take a few steps down the proverbial *journey of 1,000 miles* we often surprise ourselves at how diligently we stay the course.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
9/3/2020 3:18 pm

Living my dream? No
Successful? Nope
Then again.... it's only Thursday.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
9/3/2020 3:31 pm

Hi sexyldy1000

yes, I am living my dreams

I've had a great life, and have told my children

I loved Tony Robbins in the movie "Shallow Hal"

I also love that movie

thanks for sharing!!!

hmm

be safe



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mc_justmc 63M

9/3/2020 3:36 pm

I'm working towards my dream.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
9/3/2020 4:00 pm

My dreams were ruined when I married my first husband, I will never get to do what I always wanted to do now. But life is what it is and we just have to make the best of it as we can. I know I have a dream that I hope will be coming true very soon. I hope you enjoy your evening..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


resant78 45M  
3326 posts
9/3/2020 4:01 pm

This is a fantastic post, I sometimes wonder about that too.
I don't believe I will become rich and or famous, and I'm okay with that, there are too many naked pics of me out there. But seriously, I do feel that I've accomplished many of the things I set out to do. I also plan on doing more, and there's no reason why I can't do them.


thikhead 66M
3346 posts
9/3/2020 6:02 pm

was afraid this was going to be an "anti-masker" rant,

but its very enlightening and inspiring.

thanx

"well only get through this if we work together. if we dont, none of us will"


p1947q 77M  
140 posts
9/3/2020 7:25 pm

Living my dream most of the time. There are always potholes and speed bumps in life. And sometimes one does have to do some things they don't necessarily want to do but they do it so they can do what they want. I expect that I will never accomplish everything I dream of because I firmly believe that I should always have 10 items on my bucket list and when I do accomplish one, I add one. I wouldn't trade my life with anyone


MrRareity 64M  
4589 posts
9/3/2020 11:05 pm

Good post am I 100% there no I'm not and I know it's my fault. There are things that I will attempt to change but right now I can't until I get back to work.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


easyrider4008 67M
2562 posts
9/4/2020 1:50 am

I think that being successful is more about being happy with oneself, having enough to eat good health and the ability to adapt to the daily challenge of life. If I were successful in monetary terms I am sure I would be very unhappy and a slave to outside influences but I do enjoy the personal challenges that i set for myself.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:04 am

    Quoting 1salesman3:
    I really like Tony Robbins books.
So do millions of other people.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:05 am

    Quoting HermanG67:
    if being happy is a dream, I'm living it 👍
Awareness is part of success


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:06 am

    Quoting  :

Sounds like you have the right attitude that works for you . Thanks for dropping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:07 am

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    if you try there is a 50% chance you will fail
    if you do not try here is a 100% chance you will fail
That pretty much says it all . Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:08 am

    Quoting AnewWoman:
    Great post. I am neither rich or famous, nor do I care to be. My tag line for years has been "Living my dream." I've been truly blessed to be able to live my life the way I feel is right for me rather than trying to live a life others think I should live.
Congratulations on finding the balance that works best for you! Not everyone is able to say that . Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:11 am

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    The beauty and terror of technology (especially social media) is that we can (and all too often do) live our entire lives in *real time*. We spend every bit of our waking hours absorbing, processing and reacting to a relentless bombardment of information. As a result, few of us even bother to *dream big* any more. Fixated on our screens, we squander the physical, intellectual and emotion resources necessary to build and follow through with our ambitions.

    So what to do? Personally, I have reduced social media time by over 50% (primarily by no longer opening either Facebook or Instagram), focusing instead on setting and implementing personal near-term and long-term goals. One (marginally) positive consequence of the Pandemic for me has been reduced travel and social interaction, thus freeing-up even more time for introspection and personal development.

    If we can force ourselves to take a few steps down the proverbial *journey of 1,000 miles* we often surprise ourselves at how diligently we stay the course.
For many, there have been positive benefits of the lockdown including re-examing priorities. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your articulate perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:13 am

    Quoting  :

I agree habits built up over a lifetime can be difficult to break. Self-awareness is a huge step in making it possible. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:14 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Living my dream? No
    Successful? Nope
    Then again.... it's only Thursday.
Now that it's Friday and a long weekend, perhaps your luck and success will change.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:17 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi sexyldy1000

    yes, I am living my dreams

    I've had a great life, and have told my children

    I loved Tony Robbins in the movie "Shallow Hal"

    I also love that movie

    thanks for sharing!!!

    hmm

    be safe


Easy,
Congratulations on living your dreams . Thanks for the movie reference. I will look it up. Keep being happy and safe.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:18 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I'm working towards my dream.
Part of getting there is knowing what you want and working towards it.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:20 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    My dreams were ruined when I married my first husband, I will never get to do what I always wanted to do now. But life is what it is and we just have to make the best of it as we can. I know I have a dream that I hope will be coming true very soon. I hope you enjoy your evening..
I am sorry to hear that you faced such disappointment earlier in life. Sounds like you have rebounded and have new dreams to fulfill. I wish you the best in getting there


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:23 am

    Quoting resant78:
    This is a fantastic post, I sometimes wonder about that too.
    I don't believe I will become rich and or famous, and I'm okay with that, there are too many naked pics of me out there. But seriously, I do feel that I've accomplished many of the things I set out to do. I also plan on doing more, and there's no reason why I can't do them.

You are right. Only You can determine your success. A positive attitude goes a long way to achieving what you want


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:23 am

    Quoting thikhead:
    was afraid this was going to be an "anti-masker" rant,

    but its very enlightening and inspiring.

    thanx
Thanks for stopping by and enjoying my words


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:27 am

    Quoting p1947q:
    Living my dream most of the time. There are always potholes and speed bumps in life. And sometimes one does have to do some things they don't necessarily want to do but they do it so they can do what they want. I expect that I will never accomplish everything I dream of because I firmly believe that I should always have 10 items on my bucket list and when I do accomplish one, I add one. I wouldn't trade my life with anyone
The idea of keeping and updating a bucket-list seems to work really well for you. I remember you mentioning it in another response . Sounds like you have been successful in your pursuit of happiness. I don't know many who can sincerely say, "I wouldn't trade my life with anyone." Well done!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:29 am

    Quoting  :

Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:31 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    Good post am I 100% there no I'm not and I know it's my fault. There are things that I will attempt to change but right now I can't until I get back to work.
Self-awareness and the willingness to change are big factors in achieving happiness and success. Best wishes in your pursuit.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 3:33 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    I think that being successful is more about being happy with oneself, having enough to eat good health and the ability to adapt to the daily challenge of life. If I were successful in monetary terms I am sure I would be very unhappy and a slave to outside influences but I do enjoy the personal challenges that i set for myself.
Sounds like you have found the right balance that works for you! Personal challenges are often what keeps us motivated.


Solfan55 69M
500 posts
9/4/2020 7:03 am

The fear of failure might just be the biggest obstacle to success!


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
9/4/2020 7:42 am

I remember a brand of sports caps that had messages like that written on the inside of the headband - never seen them for ages....

Concerning reality now, I believe most people actually compromise the dream part with the reality part , in equal - hopefully- proportions
Not many can say they have followed their dreams unwavered

Problem starts when the incremental adjustments one has to follow through life foinally sidetrack us, and end up wondering how we got there

So I'd say, it's the little changes that one has to loook out for

Cheers my lady - P


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/4/2020 11:13 am

    Quoting Solfan55:
    The fear of failure might just be the biggest obstacle to success!
You are right and I think many agree with you. Fear of failure can be paralyzing.


trixietrixster 56F  
3125 posts
9/5/2020 7:17 am

Fear can be such a driving emotion, standing in the way of what one desires. I truly feel that not trying something is worse than trying and failing. If you fail, we learn. If you don't try, we mite as well stop living! Gotta have faith in ourselves before we can share this others. Excellent post, pretty lady ... Happy Saturday - have a blessed day!

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/5/2020 10:32 am

    Quoting proteus_2a:
    I remember a brand of sports caps that had messages like that written on the inside of the headband - never seen them for ages....

    Concerning reality now, I believe most people actually compromise the dream part with the reality part , in equal - hopefully- proportions
    Not many can say they have followed their dreams unwavered

    Problem starts when the incremental adjustments one has to follow through life foinally sidetrack us, and end up wondering how we got there

    So I'd say, it's the little changes that one has to loook out for

    Cheers my lady - P
I agree that not many can honestly claim they have been successful in pursuing and achieving all their goals. Life is made up of 'small wins' and accomplishments.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/5/2020 10:34 am

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Fear can be such a driving emotion, standing in the way of what one desires. I truly feel that not trying something is worse than trying and failing. If you fail, we learn. If you don't try, we mite as well stop living! Gotta have faith in ourselves before we can share this others. Excellent post, pretty lady ... Happy Saturday - have a blessed day!
Thank you for your encouraging words and for stopping by and sharing your perspective. Hope this long weekend you keep safe and keep smiling


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
9/8/2020 6:03 pm

I am to old to even think about failing, I worked hard for a long time to get where I am today, I don't owe any one anything, I have a nice place out in the country , real well water! A back yard that no one can see into. Just a nice private place to enjoy my Dec of life.. Happy, Yes, Content, Yes.. Lonely, No!
But all of took many years of hard work, lots of weekend work, two jobs at times. but with a plan, I made it and no one can change it now!!

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/8/2020 7:08 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    I am to old to even think about failing, I worked hard for a long time to get where I am today, I don't owe any one anything, I have a nice place out in the country , real well water! A back yard that no one can see into. Just a nice private place to enjoy my Dec of life.. Happy, Yes, Content, Yes.. Lonely, No!
    But all of took many years of hard work, lots of weekend work, two jobs at times. but with a plan, I made it and no one can change it now!!
Hard work often pays off. Sounds like you have achieved all that you aspired to. Congratulations! Enjoy your 'golden years' in whatever ways make you happy. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
9/9/2020 8:40 am

The only thing I had a dream about that did not and will not come to be was owning a B&B and being the chief chef. The rest of the "house" I would train someone to manage. But then again I have done things I wouldnt dare tell my family that were full of wonder and joy for me. This virus has curtailed a lot for most of us so I have found happiness and solace on other interests

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sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/9/2020 4:51 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    The only thing I had a dream about that did not and will not come to be was owning a B&B and being the chief chef. The rest of the "house" I would train someone to manage. But then again I have done things I wouldnt dare tell my family that were full of wonder and joy for me. This virus has curtailed a lot for most of us so I have found happiness and solace on other interests
Sometimes we have to adjust our dreams for a number of reasons. Coming to terms with that can be a challenge but sounds like you have a good handle on it. Also, I detect a hint of 'naughty' behaviour which of course I can understand not sharing with family. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


stopbyandsayboo 52M
1295 posts
9/24/2020 4:03 pm

Thank you for the wonderful post....

Sometimes we have have to test the water by sticking our toe in it . It is hard when you have a fragile heart but taking things slow is always a good choice

Stay safe XO

JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
9/24/2020 6:02 pm

    Quoting stopbyandsayboo:
    Thank you for the wonderful post....

    Sometimes we have have to test the water by sticking our toe in it . It is hard when you have a fragile heart but taking things slow is always a good choice

    Stay safe XO
If you don't try, you can grow stagnate and many years later have a lot of regrets. "Slow and steady' wins the race according to the Aesop's fable of the tortoise and the hare. Keep safe.


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